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A Man’s Guide to Sex Toys and Accessories

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Do you secretly fear that your girlfriend’s dildo is going to put your cock out of a job? If so, you’re not alone. It’s a common misconception that sex toys steal the glory out of a man’s hands (and pants) when it comes to pleasuring women.

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The truth is, if skillfully integrated into your sex routine, toys won’t detract from your natural abilities—but enhance them! The vibrator isn’t your enemy, dude. It’s your bionic finger.

Here are some tips for how to harness the incredible power of sex toys.

Dildos

Your partner probably has her own, although it can be a really sweet surprise to receive one as a gift. There are all kinds of dildo shapes and sizes available at the Kink Lover’s BDSM & Sex Toy Store, there’s even an option to take a mold of your own cock and have it turned into a dildo, prefect for that long-distance lover.

The key to pleasuring your partner with a dildo is to start out slow and gentle. Let her tell you how fast and how deep she wants it. Because you can’t feel her, it’s easy to go at it a bit too hard at first. Feel it out and learn to read her body’s responses. Oh, and use lots of lube!

Vibrators

Again, there are about a million vibrators available for purchase. It’s best to ask your girlfriend what she likes in terms of size and intensity. If she’s never used one before, the Magic Wand has been a real crowd pleaser for many years. It was originally marketed as a back massager but everybody saw through that, and now it’s probably responsible for at least half the world’s self-delivered orgasms.

With a vibe, you want to avoid direct contact with that inner most tender part of the clit, at least for prolonged periods of time. Of course, it depends entirely on how sensitive your partner is and what she likes, but usually vibes don’t require a lot of direct pressure to be effective. Start out over top of the clitoral hood and work your way down from there. When you hit the sweet spot, you’ll know.

Nipple Clamps

If your girlfriend has never tried nipple clamps, it’s important to start out gently. Get a pair of adjustable clamps with a light chain to prevent too much of a pull on her nipples. Start out on the loosest setting, and increase the pinch incrementally, until your partner says it’s enough.

Magnets are also a good option as they don’t have a chain attached and they can be worn decoratively. Like clamps, magnets come in a variety of strengths, so be sure to choose one that feels right. You want to pinch her nipples, not give her permanent nerve damage, which can happen if you pinch too hard for too long.

Lubes and Lotions

I know, lube isn’t a sex toy per se, but it is an important component of your partner’s enjoyment during play sessions. The wrong lube, or not enough of the right kind, can lead to chafing or infection, so be sure to ask your girlfriend if she has a preferred brand before going out to buy some.

Another thing to consider is what your toy is made of. Silicone toys require a water-based lube to prevent material damage. Water-based lubes are also less likely to cause irritation, although they might need to be re-applied more often and more liberally than silicone-based lubes. Check out our toy store to find the right lube for your sexy lady!

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