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Anal Play Do’s and Don’ts

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Anal sex is a wonderful thing to add to your sexual repertoire if you haven’t already. Once upon a time back-door entry was seen as very taboo, but now it’s something people talk about on TV and at the gym. No biggie, right?

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Well… if you haven’t let someone take you from behind with a strap-on or pushed yourself inside a lady’s starfish, there can be a few words from the wise to follow… check these tips out before you enjoy anal exploration.

Anal Play Do’s and Don’ts

DO talk about it before you do it. A lot of women want the subject brought up long before the actual action takes place. And some women will never ever let you in the back door.
DON’T just stick a finger in as a test. I had this happen once, and it kinda spoiled the foreplay that I was already enjoying. Some ladies would prefer your cock in there than a finger.

DO wash down there thoroughly. This is basic etiquette, and especially important if part of your play includes rimming with a tongue.
DON’T expect her to have an enema. If the receiver feels more comfortable by having an enema that’s cool, but it’s not what most people do or should expect.

DO start small. By this, I mean fingers, butt plugs or insertable sex toys. If she’s never had anal sex, don’t just ram your giant cock in. Always imagine how something that size in your butt.
DON’T expect that she’ll ever want an extra-large dildo in there. And this might also mean your cock if it’s huge. Like Goldilocks, there are some she will think are just right.

DO have lube on hand. Even the wettest of women, will want this available just in case. It will make everything better, for both of you.
DON’T expect her to provide enough juice. If you don’t have lube and she’s wet enough to go in, there may not be enough to extend the play.

DO listen and be open to something going inside you. The majority of men shudder at the idea of something going up their butt, often sighting the gay factor. If you haven’t experienced an orgasm from anal, you really are missing out.
DON’T do anything that you don’t feel 100% comfortable with. On the flip side, if you are so against losing your anal virginity, you probably wouldn’t be at ease enough to actually enjoy it.

DO explore all that is anal. Sticking your lightning rod up her ass is only one way to enjoy anal. Try tossing her salad, butt plugs, anal beads, strap-ons, and spanking. This is a very erogenous zone that sometimes gets left behind, hehe.
DON’T expect it all to happen the first time. You’ll be hard pressed to find a woman who will let you go there on a first hookup. It feels more vulnerable than regular intercourse, so often a modicum of trust is required. Be patient.

DO discuss how you did or didn’t enjoy it. This could be shortly after or over coffee, depending on your relationship. The thing is, if you want to keep doing, you want to know what she thought.
DON’T forget what she said about the experience. Listen intently and file the specifics of the conversation for future reference. Women are much more open to exploring new things if their partner pays attention to the details.

Any do’s or don’ts from your own anal experiences, successes or failures, that you can share with our readers? Leave a comment!

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