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Bondage is for everyone, not just for those into the bdsm lifestyle. I experimented with a little bondage when I was married, and believe me, my ex-husband was pure vanilla. Of course, the pendulum can swing to the other extreme where serious bdsm folk might use suspension devices, racks, and swings.

Bondage is a good place to start if you’re new to  bdsm. All you need is creativity, trust, and a little imagination.

Fancy bondage gear is available, but why not get the creative juices flowing by taking a walk around your home, with a fresh pair of eyes. You’ll be surprised how many things you can find that work just as well as a hundred dollar pair of handcuffs. Check out your kitchen (rope), garage (cables), bedroom (nylons), and closet (ties,scarves,belts). I’ll admit, I was tied up by guitar cables in the back of a musician’s van once – good times!

Oops, I forgot to mention you do need that special someone, someone who trusts you enough to let you tie them up and try new things, and the other way around. Beginner bondage should happen with someone you have established trust with in the bedroom and in other areas of your life. Before the fun starts, talk about what you don’t want to happen. Invariably, once one of you is tied up, the other will try something you may not have talked about. “Stop, I don’t like that.” should suffice. Some lovers use coded safe words. All this sexperimentation will only build more trust. Likely, there’s one of you that prefers to do the tying (and maybe that’s okay because the other prefers being bound), but never refuse your lover the opportunity to reverse roles.

Now that you’ve found your gear and you have a lover that is keen to try a little bondage, let’s fire up the imagination. Where’s this going to happen? If you have a headboard then you’re okay, and futon bases work, too. If not, you may have to spend a tiny bit of cash on something like drawer handles to mount in strategic places. Taking your play outside the bedroom can be fun, but for a long night comfort is important. What are you going to do once you’ve tied your lover up? Well . . . the possibilities are endless, and I don’t want to give too much direction. A hint: think senses – ice cubes, melted chocolate, feathers, blindfolds, brushes. Start a collection that you can keep close at hand, if bondage becomes your thing.

Kinklovers: Any bondage stories to share?

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