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Talking Dirty And Knowing What To Say

Man Talking Dirty to Woman

So much of kink and roleplay comes down to communicating your emotions via body language, facial gestures and verbal interaction. Every action demands a reaction and if you can imagine chaining up a block of wood, or spanking a chair, you can immediately see why a submissive’s reactions are the key ingredient of every kind of scene play you will ever experience.

Some subs are introverts, some doms are not really talkers, so discussion of what makes good dirty talk is a topic well worth exploring here on KinkLovers.com. submissives can be guided by their masters but a dom must always keep three key things in mind for every scene in advance:

1. Be Confident or Be Quiet

All eyes are on you. The subs, and even other doms in the same scene are waiting on each word you utter. Any stammer, soft murmurs or passive voices quickly get ignored in favor of the sharper tones confident players bring to the dungeon. Silence isn’t the best, but it is always preferable to weakness from a dom. Know what you plan to say, be ready to say it clearly, and always do so with full confidence that your words will find their mark.

2. Practice Makes Perfect

So many new doms assume that everyone is born with verbal gifts. The fact is most have honed them over time and perfected their pitch through a considerable amount of practice. This is where research can be a huge help. Reading sites like Kink Academy, participating on online alt sex communities like Alt.com or having direct conversations via webcam on a platform like Flirt4Free gives you a huge advantage. What you say anonymously online can be used to gauge reactions and to plan subsequent statements in your real life dungeon adventures.

3. Fake Always Fails

The best way to start every interaction is with genuine emotion. If saying certain words seems foreign to you, or you find some kinds of kink less appealing, don’t force yourself to portray any preconceived notions about BDSM. Most of all, be yourself, because fake phrases always fail when held up alongside real naked aggression and authentic love of something else that may be equally kinky in its own special way!

If you have any tips for dirty talk, please leave a comment!

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