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The Ins and Outs of Strap-On Sex

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I have mixed feelings about The Almighty Strap-on.

Conceptually, they rock. The whole idea of flip-play is such a basic kinky pleasure that when it comes my way I’m usually all “Sure, why not!” Realistically, they aren’t quite capable of delivering all the goods.

Here’s my breakdown on the good bits:

Hitting The Spot. No two ways about it — getting my hole stuffed for prostate pleasure is where it’s at for physical sexual pleasure. (Only those who’ve never tried it would argue otherwise…sissies!)

Is that a cock in my ass? As a kink lover, the fantasy of taking another guy’s cock in my ass intensely heightens the psychological effect. It feels so slutty if your day job is to be straight.

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And the not-so-good bits:

Are you still there…? Practically speaking, a strap-on in this circumstance is all about the prostate, which means your female partner is there to pleasure you. And that’s cool, but I get off more when we’re doing something that’s working for both of us. (Note: To get around this issue, you have to choose a dildo also equipped with an end for her. They’re out there. It’s on my wish list.)

So, like, that’s not a real cock…? Every now and then, in order to up the kink ante, I’ll instinctively start rubbing the dildo as if it were a real cock, going all bi-like. But no matter what I do while in the throes of filth — no reaction. Oh, right: she can’t feel anything! No nerve endings in a dildo! “You mean I’ve been doing all that fancy hand and mouth work for nothing?!” I find that that can be a weird-ish mood spoiler.

Don’t think I’m dissing the strap-on. Like I said, I’ll take it. But I have to modify my expectations. Cuz, really, if it’s just about the prostate, technically, wouldn’t The Stinkie Pinky do? Of course it would. But there’s something about the look of a disco-sparkling fuchsia harness wrapped around a kinky girl’s crotch that gives the evening an extree bit of sexy-glamour. Who am I to refuse?

Besides, my forthcoming venture into dildodom should solve at least one of the aforementioned not-so-good bits: I’m investing in a doubledong! That way we can both enjoy getting gut-fucked at the same time…

I’ll keep you posted!

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  1. Patrick

    June 12, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    I visit a Pro Domme occasionally mostly for impact play and recently she dropped hints that she enjoys using her strap-ons. Being curious I decided to let her know that I would not object. In anticipation I made sure my bowel was empty by using an enema a couple of hours ahead of my appointment. She is a very experienced Domme and I came to be greatly appreciative of that fact.
    The session started out with an hour of butt-flogging (I am absolutely addicted to that) which relaxed my sphincter quite effectively. She then donned her ‘training’ (smaller) strap-on and a glove, lubricated both quite generously, positioned me and gently inserted her gloved finger several times by which time I was fully relaxed and ready to accept her strap-on. I could not believe it! There was no pain as she enthusiastically continued with the role reversal whispering erotic ‘threats’ in my ear. A unique and most pleasurable experience for someone who is ‘straight’ in sexual orientation and had never experienced anal penetration previously. I’m certainly up for a repeat.
    On reflection I think the keys to success are
    mutual agreement
    preparation (physical & psychological)
    patience
    relaxation
    lubrication
    start small & build on that.

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