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Tips for Mutual Masturbation

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BDSM is not always about sex. That was news to me when I first started exploring the world of kink. But pleasure is – how you find it varies greatly – definitely a part of bdsm and mutual masturbation is a great way that both you and a partner can achieve this.

Most people begin exploring masturbation as a solo adventure when they’re young, but as you grow more comfortable with your body and technique, it’s something that can be shared, something that can enhance another person’s experience and help bond bdsm partners.

Mutual Masturbation Techniques

For Your Eyes Only
This technique would involve you and your partner pleasuring yourselves to orgasm without touching one another at all. You’ll be aroused not only by your touch, but also by what you see your partner doing. You can make a no-talk rule or you may want to tell your lover how you want him/her to touch themselves. Some couples like to have sexual videos playing in the background for inspiration and arousal. If you want to surprise your lover you can set a sexy scene by getting caught in the act when they come home.

Erotica Inspired
There’s some good erotic literature out there from classics to recent works that can get the juices flowing. You’ll find lots of erotic fiction online. Take turns reading sexy passages to each other while you undress and begin to masturbate. I’ve also found it easy to turn on and be turned on by sharing personal sexcapades with lovers. These can be true stories or fictions made up as you go along. Just let your imagination run wild. An excellent way to put your creativity to good use.

Open Up the Toy Box
BDSM folks usually have an assortment of toys that they use in scenes and at playtime. Pick your pleasure. Use toys on yourself or on each other at the same time. Vibrators of any kind are my favorite, but don’t be shy about looking around the house for spontaneous props – feathers, ice, wax, anything sensory is a good starting point.

Taking Turns
You may want to prolong your orgasms by taking turns with yourself or each other and then stopping short of climax. When you can barely stand it, have your lover tie your hands while they play with themselves and right before they come, switch and tie theirs. The longer you can hold off the bigger your orgasm. You may want to time your sessions, make a little competition out of your play session.

Everything But
At this point, just watching each other may be too much for you to handle. In this case you may want to touch each other. Rub your bodies against, up and down and all around without penetration. Give it a go, and see if you can come at the same time. This may take a lot of control of one or both of your parts, a great mental exercise worth practising.

Most men who I’ve been with love the idea of watching a woman pleasure herself. I wasn’t always comfortable sharing this part of myself, but if I’m close enough to someone, I will, and it gives me pleasure to give someone I care about what they crave.

How do you feel about mutual masturbation? Do you enjoy it?

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