I was a late bloomer when it came to buying any sex toys. That is if you don’t count the dollar store vibrator a co-worker gave me when I was twenty-two. I didn’t have a lot of sexual experience at the time and felt so embarrassed, but a lover a year later did end up using it on me for double penetration! But then I didn’t own any more toys for years. Partly because the convenience of online shopping didn’t exist back then, and I was too shy to go to any racy shops downtown.
A lot has changed since then including my sexual confidence and my collection of toys. I don’t own too much… just a few essentials to keep me happy. And of course there are a couple things on my wish list. Here are a few tips that will help you find the sex toys right for you.
1. Surf Online. There are plenty of online stores such as our very own Kink Lovers Store for you to browse. You only need type in the kind of toy or play you are interested in and a multitude of options will pop up.
2. Read Reviews. I find these very helpful before buying an item, especially ones that are expensive. There are often forums also, where you can ask other readers specific questions. There’s no sense in forking out piles of cash for something you might only use a couple times.
3. Shop with a Friend or Lover. This works for shy individuals and makes the experience much more fun. I actually went with my mum one time and we had a blast, spending over two hours looking at everything from strap-ons to nipple clamps to butt plugs.
4. Ask Questions. If you’re shopping at a store, don’t be afraid to ask lots of questions. The people who work at these shops are usually well versed in how everything works, what things can and cannot be used for, and safety precautions. Take advantage of their knowledge.
5. Attend Sex-centric Events. If you live in a big city, finding these shouldn’t be so hard. You’ll find products you never knew existed and be inspired by the demonstrations. If you’re just beginning to explore BDSM, these events often host workshops that will help get you started.
Where do you shop for sex toys?
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