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4 Benefits of BDSM and Kink

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Back when I was vanilla, I didn’t even think about kink and bdsm. I didn’t know what it was or what it stood for. It also wasn’t part of the mainstream media as it is today, where you’d have to be living under a rock not to know about domination and submission, and the many other practices that kink lovers engage in. I first learned through books, movies and porn, and then I started trying some of my own fantasies. Writing for Kink Lovers has also been very enlightening, especially when readers share their thoughts and stories.

I have experienced many benefits through discovering my kinks and those of the lovers I have had in recent years. I’ll share four of the positive effects kink has had on my life and my relationships. 

4 Benefits of BDSM

1. Keeps a new relationship fresh and brings spice to an old relationship. If you can find the right “play partner” who you’re comfortable sharing your fantasies with and who will indulge you, it can be magical… and you quickly realize that the sexual component of the relationship won’t be a problem! With something more long-term, sex can get stale. Kinky exploration is a great place to begin when trying to revive boredom in the bedroom.

2. Adds creativity and fun. To me there is nothing more exciting than letting one’s imagination run wild. I’m not hardcore kink, so fun is always a priority, and it has definitely had a positive impact on my enjoyment of sex and my own sexuality. The bdsm lifestyle is so vast and varied that exploration is limitless. It’s finding the right lover to match your enthusiasm that can be most challenging.

3. Makes you feel young. Just ask the many over-fifty kink fanatics that you will find at burlesque shows, sex workshops, or kinky clubs. I love knowing that age doesn’t have to factor in when it comes to kink, and it doesn’t matter when you start exploring in life. I felt like a late bloomer, but there’s plenty of men and women who didn’t hold a flogger or tie their lover to the bedposts until after retirement!

4. Deepens your relationships. This has been definitely true for me. It takes a lot of trust to let a parter tie you spread eagle to a bed, or even just to share your innermost fantasies with – some that less open-minded people might see as perverted or deviant. It’s that trust which helps to build intimacy and makes a relationship stronger, as well as encouraging it to grow.

How has kink and bdsm benefited your life? Please share in the comments!

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