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BDSM Scene Facts and Tips

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When I first heard the word “scene” in the bdsm context, I imagined an elaborate set-up like in a movie. This can be the case in dungeons and major bdsm events, but it usually refers to any setting where bdsm activity takes place. So a scene often happens in the home of a couple who have anything from a casual to committed bdsm lifestyle. Here is more information on bdsm scenes.

Scene Facts and Tips

1. It is the dominant’s responsibility to pull his or her submissive into a scene (regularly if you are in a serious relationship).

2. Plan ahead. Call before you arrive home and ask your submissive to prepare the scene by laying out any bdsm gear you’re in the mood for. This will increase the sub’s anticipation for things to come. Ask your sub to dress specifically for the evening.

3. Have a secret scene word. This word(s) can tell a submissive how you’d like to find them when you return home. Maybe you want them naked in the bathtub or on their hands and knees in the kitchen.

4. Some couples who don’t live the d/s relationship 24/7 will use a separate room for scenes – an extra bedroom or furnished basement. When a dom asks their sub to meet them in the…  their partner will automatically know to become subservient.

5. Scenes are not all about punishment. It may also be about reward or a combination of both. It may also refer to a creative role play acted out.

6. Follow your scene with intimacy. Scenes often leave a submissive overwhelmed with emotions such as sadness, anger, joy, or pain. Provide subspace, and talk about what you each enjoyed or didn’t enjoy about the scene. A sub’s anger may lead to a follow up scene where the dom will administer punishment.

Is a bdsm scene something you might try? Any experiences you can share?

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