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Start slow should probably be the first words spoken to any newbie on the BDSM scene.

If you’re showing a close friend the basics of domination or submission, bondage or sadism and masochism, I will articulate only one thing: TELL THEM TO START SLOW!

The urge and exciting rush to unleash one’s inner leather-clad, ball-stomping, ass-kicker self might flood to the surface, and they may lose it.

I think that many people, if given the chance to administer pain to somebody who is in a prone, vulnerable position, may over-estimate the impact of their actions! Of course, there are also those gentle souls who, when in the position to dip their toes in the dark pools of BDSM, play extra gentle and smooth.

There’s not really any way to truly gauge how much power to damage one has when they wield a flogger, a crop or leather paddle, especially when introduced to another body to give pain to!

And that’s why it’s best to start with something like a nice little spanking. 

I had a beautiful friend who I allowed to spank me. It was her first time playing with power in a dominant way. She was hesitant, but curious. She and I had made amazing love already, so we had a previous emotional and physical connection and a prior foundation for a solid relationship of exploration. But… I had no idea how much power existed in this woman, when it came to the part of her that was considering domination.

WOW!!! Did it ever blow my mind how much ferocious force she had in her soft, sweet hands, as well as how fast she escalated her impact upon me! I could withstand it for a good fifteen or twenty seconds. When I twisted my waist and moved, she could sense it was time to slow down and stop her rapid attack.

I suppose there may have been a lot of pent up aggression or excitement in her, whether from other missed opportunities to do this, or some other reason. I let her know that it was best to start softer and slower, and to work her way up to those hard hits and strong strokes on my supple ass, ha ha ha.

Her next approach was to circle my butt cheeks with her hands, warming up each side and the bottom of my bottom, before she began to pitter-patter her palm on me.

She instantaneously found the intuition to know that the most piercing pain occurs right after the sweetest softening touch, and she now had that power. Slowly, she began to alternate between gentle grooming pats on the backside to hard-hammering thwacks on the ass, which reverberated loud on the sex club wall. Understanding the rhythm and reason that could be generated with each differing assault on the submissive body, from the upper back to thigh, it became art.

She beat my ass so sweetly. I gripped the wall and released myself into subspace, while she found herself lost in her first BDSM session, having a blast. It only lasted about four or five minutes, but when two people have a special connection and bond, communication is instantaneous, whether verbally or silently.

And although she found her limit quite rapidly, she learned exactly what it felt like to have another body at her mercy, and what spanking it felt like in her hands. I loved giving myself to her, and I look forward to showing her what it feels like to flog me! But, I have no intention of making her think that her or myself should think of BDSM as a brief, quick, small jaunt into some tiny fantasy. It’s anything but that!

It’s a potentially infinite realm of advanced power exchange and ultra-mature sensuality that might take us to the heights of human vulnerability in sexuality. And I am in NO rush to force her to try any of the countless objects I’d like her to beat me with! Like I said in the beginning, and what I suggest for all those exploring The Lifestyle: Take It Slow.

Enjoy every single thing. Possibly as a submissive, before ever trying to dominate! Either way, savor the journey. Taste each spank fully.

Deliciously,
Addi Stewart

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