Kinky Confessions

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Here’s a confession about BDSM dating and kinky compatibility…

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I’ve never had trouble meeting or picking women up at the clubs. The problem is I like ladies who are dominant in the bedroom. I’ll see a woman dressed in black leather and wearing studded stilettos and assume she’s tough, but then at home she wants me to spank her or tie her up. That’s just not me.

My last hookup told me she was a natural submissive but would try role reversal for fun. It was okay, but when you know your lover isn’t that into it, it’s hard to get hard if you know what I mean.

I’m starting to think about finding a BDSM dungeon where I could pay a dominatrix to boss me around which I want so bad, but my end game has always been to find someone for a long-term d/s relationship.

I fantasize about being chained up for hours while my girlfriend goes shopping, or being humiliated in public for being a bad boy. – Dale

Dale is struggling with what many of us do—finding our kink-compatible partner. Sexual compatibility is one thing, but if you have hardcore fantasies or very specific fetishes, it can be challenging to meet the right man or woman.

I understand the struggle Dale is having. I want a man who is dominant, someone who will throw me on the bed and ravish me. Sadly I keep meeting men who are super feminists and act too careful with me, like I’m a china doll that might break.

Fortunately there are niche dating sites like BDSMdate.com that specialize in connecting kinky men and women.

The problem with mainstream dating sites is that if you talk about sex in your profile, you generally come across as a douchebag or slut because it is perceived as being too forward. But how are you to know about someone’s kinks—you can’t just ask on the first date (you can, but you risk turning him or her off.)

On a site like DominatrixHookups.com you will find lots of dommes who will gladly take charge and order you around. You are even encouraged to write about your kinky preferences and fetishes in your profile. This saves everyone a lot of time and heartache.

Where do you meet women who share your sexual or kinky proclivities? Share in the comments!

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