Many people settle when it comes to love and they either end up living a life of compromise or going through a messy hurtful breakup down the line. And settling isn’t just about love, it can also be about sexual compatibility. Been there. And sadly, done that. Highs and lows in the bedroom with a lover are expected; so many things affect our libido and it is difficult maintaining the initial excitement a new lover brings. But if you’re looking for long-term satisfaction with a partner, finding a lover who is into the same things as you, or at least willing to explore their sexuality alongside you is very important.
A few reminders when you’re looking for a compatible kinkster:
Fuck Fear
You can’t worry continuously that you won’t find the right match. Kinky dating sites are easy to find nowadays, where you can browse profiles that describe their “special interests”. You may think your sexual tastes are way out there and there is no one who would also like what you like, but there is!
Persevere
A few bad dates can put anyone into a negative space, but being in that zone and staying there will only create and attract more of the same. Take a dating break when you need to, and focus on other areas of your life that bring you joy to maintain a positive outlook. Return with confidence!
Learn Along the Way
Don’t let a less-than-stellar sexual experience or relationship go to waste. There’s something to be learned from every naked encounter. What you liked. What you didn’t like. How communication could have been better. Something you’d like to try, but weren’t ready emotionally or psychologically. The highway of hellish hookups is paved with gold.
It might take you a long time to find that one lover who is going to be just what you’re looking for, so while you continue on your journey, enjoy the pleasures along the way. After all, exploration of our sexual selves should never get old.
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