I love men, but there have been times when I either needed a break or preferred my own sexual company. This happened after my divorce, a long drawn-out affair. Typically, I swore off men forever (yeah, right!) and began exploring various sexual avenues on my own.
Whether you’re recovering from a bad breakup, involved in a sexless relationship, or finding it difficult to find someone to satisfy your sexual urges; there are still plenty of ways to enjoy yourself. I called my post-divorce phase:
Everything but the Cock
Porn
I was never into porn until after my marriage (and wow!), I had no idea there was so much, and so many kinds of porn. I still come across things that surprisingly turn me on, and yes, shock me. Porn is my go-to place when I want to speed up the arousal process.
Toys
When I began blogging for various dating sites, I was given the task of reviewing sex toys. The best part was that I got to choose what I’d test-drive and keep the product. Some bdsm people have overflowing toy trunks, and I can see how one can be obsessive about toys – they’re fun!
Veggies
If you can’t afford new toys all the time, take a trip to the market for some lovely thick, long vegetables to suit your tastes. You don’t get to choose the perfect cock shape or size when it comes to men (well, usually not) but with produce shopping, you can take your time. My fave is a peeled English cucumber (slightly warmed in the microwave).
Spicy
Eating various spices can increase sex drive, but don’t forget about using them directly on your genitals for some explosive sensations. I tried figging recently (placing a shaved ginger root in your vagina or anus) Woah! It was super intense, and I’m not sure it would be to everyone’s liking – insert at your own risk. Rubbing mint leaves down there will give you the opposite cooling sensation (toothpaste works, too.)
Fisting
Okay, I’m yet to try this, and apart from porn, I don’t see many people doing this on their own, but hey – most women’s hands are smaller! And the reason or interest in fisting is not so much to replicate the feeling of a cock (it doesn’t) but to feel “full”.
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It felt good to go-it-alone for a while, but of course, I did return to men and joined my first online dating website. My love life, or rather sex life, has been going strong ever since.
Kinksters: When cock is in short supply or non-existent, what do you like to play with?
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