5 Reasons It’s Never too Late to Explore Kink

Are you in your forties, fifties, or older, and wondering if you will ever get a chance to explore fantasies, fetishes, or kinks that you’ve always wanted to.

It’s never too late, and sometimes it’s actually better, to explore BDSM or kink lite and everything in between when you’re older (whatever “older” means to you).

I had a few kinky trysts in my twenties, and then I had a long dry spell mixed with run-of-the-mill sex. It wasn’t until my forties that I began really exploring some of my secret desires and being able to share them. Age was definitely a factor for me, and maybe it is for many of our readers.

Not all of these reasons will necessarily apply to you, but there may be one or two or three that are worth remembering when venturing into the world of kink.

5 Reasons Why It’s Not too Late to Explore Kink

1.  You have more sexual experience. Making love is like anything else, we get better the more we practice. Your experience may be with one lover, where you really know a particular woman and her body, or it may be with tens of lovers who have taught you that every woman is unique when it comes to what turns her on.
2. You have confidence. Remember your first sexual encounter, or even sex in your twenties? It’s never as good as your thirties and beyond, right? All that experience gives a person confidence not just in their prowess, but also in their ability to talk openly about sex with new partners.
3. You have a long-term partner. If you’ve been with the same lover for a long time, you already know what turns them on, and you get to skip all the getting-to-know-you stuff. Take the plunge, and share your fantasies. It may just open up the door to something new and exciting, and she might surprise you with her own wild desires.
4. You have the maturity. Kink and BDSM exploration require a certain level of maturity, specifically when it comes to respecting limits and boundaries and issues of safety. Wisdom brings a lot to the table, especially with younger partners or even new partners.
5. You have options. When you were younger, online dating would either have been in its infancy or perhaps not existed at all. With the availability of everything now from mainstream dating sites to niche sites that cater to kinky men and women, your first kinky encounter is closer than you think.

P.S. My mother always had a strong sex drive, but she went full-on kinky at age sixty. It was almost too much, as she liked to talk about it almost as much as she like to do it! That said, I was happy to see her so happy… it was inspiring!

Let’s hear from our over-forty Kink Lovers: Where do you meet kinky playmates?