Anal Sex Tips for Beginners

Anal sex can be hot, and incredibly kinky. If you do it wrong, though, it can be a painful experience. A lot of people have tried it once and never tried again, because things went so bad their first time.

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Here are a few ideas to make your anal adventures better and easier for your partner.

Anal Sex Tips for Newbies

1. When to bring it up? Everybody is different. I’ve dated some people for years and never once gone up their ass. With other people I was in there on the first date. We’re buying a cucumber at the supermarket to shove up there after knowing each other for an hour.  

It’s so hard to tell. My advice is to just ask if someone is into it after you’ve done it once or twice and things seem normal. Make the proposal fun, and kinky.

2. You don’t have to go for it right away. If a person has never done it, you can get them to appreciate that their ass is an erogenous zone by teasing the area outside with your fingers or adding a rim job (that is to say licking their asshole) into your oral sex play. This might be easier for everyone if it happens after a shower and before a shit—this will eliminate phobias about cleanliness.

3. Take the time to make her feel comfortable. Lube is the magic word here. For women, ass and finger play can be part of a general probing of the area. It can be combined with clit rubbing or digital penetration of the pussy. Remember to keep track of which fingers are going where, this will help ladies avoid annoying urinary tract infections.

For guys, remember that the prostate is up there, and so touching that with a finger can add a fuck of a lot to a handjob or blowjob. Don’t freak out, straight guys, it isn’t gay if a lady does it. If you don’t care if it’s a lady or a man getting in there, then just have fun and be safe.

4. Be gentle, and go slow. There is no rush! You don’t have to pound someone’s ass the first time. If you want anal sex to be a part of your regular routine, don’t go all Game of Thrones on somebody’s ass.  

Just use a lot of lube, and ease in a tiny bit. If they feel pain, stop where you are and wait until it passes. Make sure they’re in a comfortable position. Trust and safety are the key. Once you have that, you can ride that ass into the ground.

Have fun and remember to wash your dick and dildo after!