Over time, even kinky sex can lose a bit of its luster. They say that variety is the spice of life, and that’s true of the kink life, too. If you find that things are growing stale, don’t immediately assume that what you need is a change in partner. Experimenting with new and different sex acts might be all you need to rekindle the flame and take your relationship to new heights.
The most natural and organic way to introduce new kinks is to expand on things that you and your partner already enjoy. If you both like bondage, but you haven’t experimented with flogging, start by adding some light spanking into the mix, and then push the boundaries steadily from there. It’s probably best to take it slow as you try new things, so don’t go jumping into the deep end of BDSM until you’ve spent some time in shallower waters.
If your partner is open to the idea, you might also look to kinky erotica for inspiration. Set aside time one evening to surf the web with your partner, and use it as a preview of sex acts, toys and fetish gear that you might consider adding to your own adventures. Watching others experience things like hot wax games, suction play or humiliation can give you an idea whether that sort of action is something you’d enjoy, or if it falls outside you or your partners’ notion of a kinky good time.
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The most important aspect of broadening your sex life is making sure that the direction you take things in is mutually interesting. It doesn’t do you much good to figure out that you would enjoy dominating your lover if he or she is steadfast about their own need to be the top. Explore with an open mind, but be sure you keep your ears open at the same time. Listening to your lover is important for more than just hearing their safe word, after all.
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