Banging your lady in the ass is one of those topics that can be difficult to broach if you haven’t already. She will probably love it, but she just doesn’t know that yet. Some people just go for it. Some people just go for it on the first date. Sometimes that works, other times not so much.
One method I think will work is to introduce anal play by approaching it from the rear, intuitively speaking. Think of starting with romance and working your way back to raunch.
Tell her that you want to start taking romantic baths. Light the candles, run hot water, add bath salts and bubbles, and play soft music to set the mood. Once you’re in there, get cuddly. Caress her, take your time. Make the baths a part of your regular routine.
Some of the baths will be romantic, but other ones will be erotic. That’s just how it goes. Make sure you soap her whole body, paying special attention to her behind. You can even make a joke about wanting to be sure it’s clean. While you’re massaging her ass, start to play with her vagina. Get that clit going. Get her on her hands and knees and lick her from behind.
While she’s moaning and having a great time, let your tongue swipe her asshole a few times. Run your tongue up and down her crack. Take note of her body language. Is she pushing herself back into you or pulling away? If she seems turned on, ask about putting your pinky inside.Â
When she’s ready, maybe not the first time, you can slip a finger in there. The more slow and gentle you go, the better it will be. Some women aren’t comfortable with a man’s finger going in and would prefer something like a butt plug.
You don’t have to fuck her ass the first day. Just keep playing with it when you get a chance, and let her know that ass is on the menu, whenever she’s up for it.
Some women will be gung ho for anal without any kind of wooing needed, while others will need time to think about it long and hard before letting you go all in. If it’s your kink, you can always put it on your dating profile to find your compatible anal-play partner.
Is anal sex a fetish or kink for you? Do you find it difficult to meet women who are into it?
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