It’s true, I enjoy going to strip clubs… at least I used to. I don’t go so much anymore, and maybe it’s because I’m getting older, but when I was younger, it was a fun thing to do. I went with friends, and yes, sometimes even a boyfriend. What?!? I need to clarify. I’ve never been to a male strip club; I’ve only ever seen one male stripper at a bachelorette party, and to be honest, the male form just isn’t that hot compared with that of a woman’s. So… it was the ladies I wanted to see. Some guys think a strip club full of naked, writhing beauties is for men’s eyes only, but sorry, a lot of us ladies are into watching, too.
Going to strip clubs gets a bad rap. Men often feel the need to sneak around behind their wives’ or girlfriends’ backs, or even to lie when asked if they’ve ever been to one. Of course, not every guy (or gal) enjoys the strip club atmosphere, but if you do, why not enjoy it together. It can be a great way to turn yourselves on together before running home to act out your fantasies and desires.
I know what some of our male readers are thinking: Ya, right? As if my girl is ever going to go with me. You’d be surprised. Before I actually went to a club, I had a lot of not-so-great opinions of strip clubs myself.
Here are a few tips to get your gal into going with you and quite possibly enjoy the experience…
Scope it Out
Finding the right place to take a woman requires a little homework – the fun kind! If you’re new to the strip club scene, you might not even know where some of them are. Ask around, browse the internet, and then go check a few out. I can tell you that women enjoy watching women who can dance well, wear cool costumes, and act out fantasies. Sure, we like the nakedness, but we want a little frill on top.
Be Choosy
So now that you’ve found somewhere you think she might like, it’s time to bring up the idea in conversation. You don’t have to mention that you’ve been to five clubs looking for the one she might like most, but you can bring up your top choice, and see what her reaction is. It doesn’t have to be the swankiest, most exclusive club in town, but no bottom-of-the-barrel joints either… The more reputable and respectable the place, the classier the clientele, which will definitely have an impact on your lady’s enjoyment factor.
Make a Night of It
Even though you’re going out to watch other women disrobe and cavort on stage, the focus of the evening should be your date. Make dinner or a reservation before you go to the club. She needs to feel secure about her standing, and know that the strip club is only part of the foreplay with her. When you are at the strip club, never ever get so caught up on the dancing ladies that your date feels ignored. Talk about the dancers with her, ask her which one is her favourite, critique their performances.
Know When to Leave
I can’t guarantee your date is going to love the scene. She may enjoy it at first, and then start to feel weird about it. Truth is, you don’t see a lot of women other than the dancers at these clubs. So if this is how it plays, know when to leave. If things are going well, and you’re both having a great time, you still need to know when to call it a night, or rather begin your night with her. You’ll know it’s almost that time if your gal is getting super touchy-feely with you… don’t miss the turn-on signals she’s expressing through body language.
Think of strip clubs as an alternative to watching porn as a couple to put you and your lady in the mood.
Kink Lovers: Are strip clubs your thing? If so, do you go solo or enjoy them with a special friend?
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