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Tips for Masturbating in Front of Her

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Masturbating, as you may recall from every day between your twelfth birthday and today, can be quite a personal affair. We develop this secret relationship with our bodies that has its own rules and regulations. Where it happens, how it happens, and what thoughts or images we use to get to the goal line are all unique.

So what happens when you suddenly are asked to masturbate in front of another person? It actually takes a lot of trust and openness to reach that point. You can’t be like Louis CK and just jerk off in front of anyone who happens to be in your office. Here are a few ideas.

Tips for Masturbating in Front of Her

Put on a Show

If a lady asks you to masturbate in front of her, realize that she wants it to be a bit of a performance. You can’t just give it the old death grip and pound away into a crusty old undershirt. You can’t do that anymore than you can expect to stay in a sexual relationship with someone if you only ever fuck like a jackrabbit. You got to switch up your strokes, be sensual, work on eye contact, and make it an experience that she shares with you.

Talk about It

Start by sharing the fact that you masturbate. She does too, you know. Talk about what turns you on, what kind of porn you like (assuming it isn’t totally fucked-up shit, in which case you might want to soft serve the truth a little until you’re sure what she’s about). Make the topic comfortable first. Make it natural so that if you’re masturbating together, you can switch back to yourself when need be, for example, near the point of orgasm.

Show Her What You Like

One thing about masturbating for somebody is that you get to show them how you like to be touched. I’ve known a few women who rubbed their own pussy for me, because they wanted to show me how they liked their clit to be touched, how they liked their breasts to be played with. It’s an educational opportunity, as well as a way to open up the entire space of sensuality between two people.

Play with Toys

Using toys can add a lot of kinky fun to the entire experience. You can have fun presenting each other with different objects and challenging each other to reach an orgasm using that object to get the job done. Shop for sex toys together to build up the anticipation about what will happen when you get home.

Talk Dirty

Talking can add a lot to any sexual interplay. You can talk dirty while you do it, or she can talk dirty to inspire you. You can close your eyes, or open them, using your imagination all the while. This kind of dialogue, along with the act of masturbation, can unleash fantasies and fetishes that have been under wraps. Role playing is another facet that enables couples to act out fantasy scenes or pretend to be someone else. Do what works for you!

Do you masturbate in front of your lovers?

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