Tips for Practicing Consensual Exhibitionism

The whole draw of being an exhibitionist is the thrill you get from thinking that someone might catch you doing something freaky with your partner (or yourself) in a public place, right? You might think that having sex in a park, or letting your cock out in line at the grocery store is the hottest thing imaginable, but the trouble is, these kinds of activities are not consensual. I mean, how can the public consent to seeing your dick right out there in the open if they aren’t expecting it? And we all know how important consent is. Thankfully there are ways you can express your exhibitionist tendencies without offending or traumatising anyone.

Do It Over Skype
If you and your partner are really into the idea of having sex on display, find yourselves a willing observer and go at it over Skype. You can set the stage however you like. Find another couple to watch you, then take turns watching each other, or pretend your web cam just happened to be left on as you start to undress and get it on. The key is to find people who want to take part in your exhibitionist fun. Flashing someone over Skype who has not signed up for it is really just as inappropriate as the grocery store.

Do It on Kinky Dating Site
Some kink sites have a place where you can post your private photos/videos for other people to see. Those who have access to them know that they’re going to see some really intimate things, and they’re cool with that. What makes it so hot is that they don’t know exactly what they’ll see until they click on your link. In this sense they’re consenting to the element of surprise, which is part of what makes exhibitionism so exciting. Just be sure to observe the parameters of the site and try not to post things that violate them, like violent images, etc.

Do It in a Sex Club
Most large cities have clubs where you can go and get your exhibitionist freak on. Sometimes they feature an atmosphere of swinging or just kinky stuff in general. It might take some exploration before you find a place that really feels right for you. Also be sure to check in with your partner if the two of you decide to go clubbing together. You want to make sure you’re both totally comfortable with the vibe of the place and that you’re clear about your boundaries in terms of what you’re planning to do by yourselves, with each other, or with other people! Communication is always important, even when trying something as seemingly spontaneous as exhibitionist sex.

So, as I hope to have shown you, the excitement of public sex can be manufactured in private settings. It just takes the right amount of preparation and an open mind.

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