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10 Examples of Consensual Non-Consent Kinks

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We recently explored the taboo world of CNC kink—consensual non-consent kink—and what that means. Today we’ll look at examples of CNC kinks and fantasies that are out there.

To recap quickly, a CNC kink is all about consensual non-consent in sex.

Read: CNC Kink: Consensual Non-Consent Explained

Is consensual non-consent an oxymoron? It is controversial in both kink and vanilla communities. Some are on the side that claims it is dangerous to dabble in non-consent because being kinky and identifying with the kink community implies being “ethical,” and a huge part of that is consent.

On the other hand, some advocate for what they see as an obvious right to sexual pleasure and identity however it manifests. Giving consent to non-consent is always consent, and partners must abide by the consent boundaries, so denying an adult their autonomy and right to sexuality is wrong.

Consent is given in advance of sex play, either blanket consent or temporary/incidental. In both kinds, boundaries and limits and other possible terms will be discussed in detail.

10 CNC Kink Examples

1. Love Slave

Perhaps the most common consensual non-consensual kink is more commonly known as submission in BDSM. The master and slave relationship, or dom-sub, or top and bottom, or sadist and masochist, and many other names and styles are a familiar staple of kink and BDSM. Power dynamics in sexual relationships and acts are arguably the very backbone of kink.

Someone who volunteers to be submissive, a slave, a masochist, or a bottom to someone is essentially giving consent to your power play. It works the same—a sub gives verbal consent and sometimes written consent to a dom or domme. The terms are communicated—what is desired or allowed, and there are safe words or gestures like a tap that can release them if they are uncomfortable or not loving it.

Read: BDSM Play: The BIG List of BDSM Activities

2. Humiliation and Cuckold Kink

Some submissive lovers get off on humiliation, which could be physical and sexual, or psychological. If a sub wants to be abused, neglected, mocked, or tortured, they must give consent in advance, either at the time of the play before it begins, or a blanket consent to a specific lover.

A very old form of CNC kink is the cuckold kink, always popular. Basically, this is where a male is humiliated by a lover screwing around. He feels like he isn’t man enough and she needs other lovers to be satisfied, but he gets off on the humiliation or the idea of her getting fucked elsewhere.

Being a real cuckold is a big ouch. But cuckold kink is incredibly hot for many couples who love opening the bedroom door—for her.

Read: How to Find Cuckold Couples & Bulls

3. Femdom/Sissification

Some would argue that female domination is as old as kink itself, and they have a point—goddess worship, male sex slaves, and the thrill of submitting to a dominatrix are popular kink staples. But there has been a surge in recent years of specific interest in sissification and extreme fem-dom submission. Basically, a man consents to being dominated, abused, enslaved, tortured, or humiliated by a goddess or mistress figure.

Femdom and sissification are humiliation plays aimed at masculinity. A man is mocked for a small penis, made to dress up as a female or baby, sometimes forced to cater to a domme’s male lovers. The terms of such a relationship are necessarily navigated in great detail.

Read: Find a Femdom Seeking Submissive Men

4. Penis Humiliation

One specific humiliation of sissification but also of other BDSM plays is penis humiliation. This can involve mockery, disgust, or physical abuse. Consent is given before play or in general to a lover.

Read: 6 Facts about Small Penis Humiliation (SPH)

5. Rape Play

Rape is a very common female fantasy and men, too, fantasize about rape. But many, if not most, women, fantasize about being ravished, overpowered, surprised, abducted, or made into a sex slave.

Their fantasy is not reality, first of all, so role playing a rape does not change that. She gives consent to play out the fantasy with a trusted partner, which is not the same thing as a random brute that stalks her on the bus, that she did not choose.

Read: Should You Indulge Your Kinky Date’s Rape Fantasy?

6. Group Sex

Another CNC kink example may simply be consenting to sex with other people in advance. During sissification rites, a domme may bring in her male lover to humiliate her submissive through anal penetration. He consents to this in advance.

You may enjoy being coerced or manipulated into a threesome.

You might like to say no, no, no, but really do want your wife’s girlfriend to sit on your rock hard dick.

Read: How To Find Group Sex

7. Incest Kink

Family and step-family incest are extremely common porn fantasies and you’ll often see seduction videos or “Mommy made me” scenarios.

Role playing incest power struggles is a common CNC kink.

Read: Incest RolePlay: Mother Son Fetish

8. Sleep Fetish

Many married couples or long-term lovers have an implied consent arrangement when it comes to “sleep sex”.

For example, if a hookup date starts things up while I’m sleeping he’ll get a bloody nose, but a live-in partner understands that I am “available” while I’m sleeping. I find it extremely erotic to wake up to being touched or him jerking off and fingering me. It’s a lovely way to be roused from sleep—aroused, you can say that again!

Read: Sleep Fetish Tips and Facts

9. Authoritarian Role Play

Another CNC kink example is roleplaying with a dominant in a “position of “power”, an erotic power dynamic.

Some common role plays that explore this are age play, doctor and patient, teacher and student, seduction by another man’s wife, boss and employee, and prison guard and inmate.

Read: BDSM and Bondage Roleplay Ideas

10. Abduction Fantasies

A powerful erotic scenario and CNC kink example is the idea of being taken against your will. This can include the full narrative and context of an abduction. It could be alien abduction, or ISIS, or a local perv who picks people up in his white van with dark windows. Playing abduction games with full costume and props can be incredibly hot, with adrenaline making it addictive. The drama of it feels like you’re in a movie.

Clearly consent has to be given about matters like “when can this take place” and “can the kidnapper send another driver” and limits to the scenario that might trigger the abductee.

Read: Boundaries to Discuss in BDSM Relationships

Do you practice consensual non-consent in the bedroom? I’d love to hear more CNC kink examples.

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