Wondering how to find a femdom or local dominatrix? Whether you desire a brief encounter or an ongoing relationship, what you seek is out there.
Meeting someone you’ll have a special connection with can be challenging. And for those of us with specific kinks we’d like to explore, it can seem even more difficult to find that diamond in the rough.
But rest assured, there are femdoms looking for subs in every city. Here are some ideas for finding yours.
How to Find a Local Femdom
If you want to meet a femdom who will dominate you and allow you to serve her, you’re going to have to look for her. A sexy femdom isn’t just going to drop into your lap.
If this is your true desire, there are ways to go about it.
1. Femdom Dating Sites
Want to be proactive in your femdom search? If you don’t feel like answering a creepy newspaper ad or paying for an encounter, you’d best give femdom dating sites a chance.
These femdom sites are basically just dating sites that have marketed themselves to people interested in BDSM play. They offer an excellent way to meet lots of femdoms and local dominant women with little effort.
You will still have to woo that goddess, but at least you’ve found her and others like her!
BDSMDate.com
My favorite place for femdom dating is the kinky playground at BDSM Date. This site is one of the largest BDSM dating sites in the world, which makes it easy to find local femdoms.
BDSM Date offers streaming video chat, femdom chat rooms, and is open to all genders, orientations, and kinks. They even offer couples profiles so you can join with a partner or connect with couples. Anything is possible.
MeetDominatrix.com
Another femdom dating site that’s popular with readers here at Kink Lovers, is MeetDominatrix.com. Less sexy, but still a good way to meet and make dates with local femdoms.
Meet Dominatrix doesn’t offer as much value. There are fewer members, no video, and less features than you’ll find at BDSM Date. However, it’s still a good second option as a femdom finder, particularly if you live in the US where most of their members preside.
You can learn more about these and other femdom sites in our article:
I wouldn’t say that meeting a femdom online is the better option, but if you are serious about finding a femdom then you should add a femdom dating site to your toolbox. It could end up being the best investment you make in your search.
Consider femdom sites an additional way to find a female dominant, who may be just outside your circle.
2. Meet Femdoms at a Munch
Have you been to a munch? A munch is an informal gathering of people in the BDSM lifestyle who meet to hang out, meet new people, discuss matters relating to their community, or just chat in general.
There’s no fetish clothing usually, and nothing sexual is going on. But there is talking, and this is an excellent opportunity to meet others who’ll compliment your submissive streak.
You can read more about munches here: What is a BDSM Munch
3. Find a Femdom at Fetish Nights
Another way to find femdom hookups would be attending fetish nights at local clubs, fetish parties, or even related BDSM conventions.
Basically, you have to increase your odds by putting yourself into situations where a femdom might be, but also in a situation where you’ll be able to recognize her as such either by her clothing or how she conducts herself.
Read: How to Find BDSM Events
In the end, I think it’s important to be active by being social and possibly joining a femdom dating site to get more exposure to femdoms near you. It’s not always easy to identify a sexually dominant woman or dominatrix, so put yourself where people are open about their desires and lust for a submissive man.
For more ideas on how to find a femdom or dominatrix, read Jamie’s article: Where to Find a Dominatrix
Got any other tips on how to find a femdom? I’d love your thoughts in the comments below.
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