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Wondering how to find a femdom or local dominatrix? Whether you desire a breif encounter or an ongoing relationship, what you seek is out there!

Meeting someone you’ll have a special connection with can be tough. And for those of us who have specific kinks we’d like to explore, it can seem even more difficult to find that diamond in the rough.

If you want to meet a femdom who will dominate you and allow you to serve her, you’re going to have to look for her. A sexy domme seeking satisfaction isn’t just going to drop into your lap. If this is your true desire then there are ways to go about it.

Have you been to a munch? A munch is an informal gathering of people in the bdsm lifestyle who meet to hang out, meet new people, disucss matters relating to their community, or just chat in general. There’s no fetish clothing usually and nothing sexual is going on. But there is talking and this is a great opportunity to meet others who will compliment your submissive streak.

You can read more about munches here: The BDSM Munch

Another option for meeting a femdom in “real life” would be to attend fetish nights at local clubs, fetish parties, or even related conventions. Basically, you have to increase your odds by putting yourself into situations where a femdom might be, but also in a situation where you’ll be able to recognize her as such either by her clothing or how she conducts herself.

Want to be even more proactive? If you don’t feel like answering a creepy newspaper ad or paying for an encounter, you’d best give a femdom dating site a chance. These are basically just dating sites that have marketed themselves to people interested in BDSM or particular fetishes, and can offer an excellent way to meet lots of femdoms and local domme women with little effort. You are still going to have to woo that goddess, but at least you have found her and others like her!

Femdom heaven awaits: Meet femdoms at FindaFemdom.com

I wouldn’t say that meeting a femdom online is the better option, but if you are serious about finding a femdom then you should add a site like Find a Femdom, or an even bigger site like BDSMdate.com to your toolbox. It could end up being the best investment you make in your search. Consider it an additional way to meet the right dominant woman, who may be just outside your circle.

So in the end, I think it’s just important to be active by either being more social and possibly joining a site to get more exposure to femdoms who live near you. It’s not always easy to identify a sexually dominant woman, so put yourself where people are open about their desires and lust for a submissive man.

Got any other tips for meeting femdoms? I’d love your thoughts in the comments below!

Tell us what you think! 23 Comments

  1. poo-poo baby

    February 11, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    I’m so tired of the horse shit, I’m for real. I want what I crave.

    • Nuts

      June 23, 2015 at 12:26 am

      Hey Kevin, nobody wants to shit on you. Fuck off.

  2. joe

    October 30, 2015 at 4:42 am

    I love to please my ladies and treat them like queens. I’ve never tried this, but I’m anxious to explore it.

    • Taylor

      July 21, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      Well you should try it with me 😉

      • Anthony

        June 20, 2018 at 2:51 pm

        Hello Taylor, I would love to try it with you 🙂

      • Joshua

        August 13, 2018 at 6:09 pm

        Can I try it too ❤️

  3. Glenn

    August 7, 2017 at 2:40 pm

    I am a 55-yr-old submissive black male who craves a REAL dominant femdom. Can someone help me with this? I have to be discreet.

    • Jasmine

      July 26, 2018 at 10:14 am

      Where are you located?

    • Delia

      August 17, 2018 at 8:03 am

      Contact me

      • Holly

        Holly

        August 17, 2018 at 8:56 pm

        Hi Delia. Sorry, but we are unable to publish any personal information such as emails.

  4. Rich

    August 21, 2017 at 11:19 am

    I am new to this and looking for a mistress. This sounds like so much fun.

  5. ed

    September 30, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    im a tottal submissive..love to be your sissy slut

  6. John Lynch

    November 24, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    I am an older submissive looking for a very discreet play friend only, and her desires Will be first considered. I’m a nice, safe guy looking for an older
    trustworthy lady for safe and secret play. I know there must be a well groomed mature lady who gets excited thinking about a nice guy reporting to her, and once the door closes she has me either naked or humiliated and restrained so tight there is no way that I can free myself as my ankles and hands are tied or cuffed for real. Now she instructs me to pleasure her, especially orally. She enjoys attire like long silk stockings, garter belts, spike high heels, and heavy makeup, especially thick red lipstick to leave prints on my mouth and face. She is also armed with a leather strap or whip to make me beg her to stop inflicting pain with. She enjoys making me kiss inside her upper legs above her stockings and eventually getting to where she enjoys my tongue most. In conclusion, I will be her real sex slave.

  7. Mark

    February 3, 2018 at 4:12 pm

    Hi there I’m looking for a dominatrix who is an expert in breath play.

    • Holly

      Holly

      February 5, 2018 at 1:55 pm

      Hi Mark! This site is a blog, not a dating site. We do not publish personal information. Check out BDSMdate.com to meet women who are dominant and also interested in kinky hookups!

  8. Randy Pellitteri

    April 8, 2018 at 5:14 pm

    Hey holly

  9. Glynn

    May 9, 2018 at 11:13 pm

    I am looking for an older lady to use a strap-on on me to see if I would like it. I am 74 and my dick doesn’t work anymore, but I still love sex.

  10. will

    June 1, 2018 at 7:58 am

    Inexperienced sub male would like to meet dominant, unattached female for domination punishment.

  11. badger1080

    July 22, 2018 at 5:22 pm

    I’ve been looking for that a LONG TIME. Sure would like one.

  12. sam lebau

    August 23, 2018 at 9:34 am

    Orgasms are for women chastity is for men

  13. rob

    October 27, 2018 at 3:40 am

    I’m 65… that doesn’t mean I’m dead or without imagination or desires. I’d like someone to serve. I can accept whatever you wish to serve to me (within limits). I can take some pain and more in a sexual situation, and I will serve you with a very desirous tongue.

  14. stuart middle

    October 27, 2018 at 3:48 pm

    FindaFemdom is FULL OF SUBMISSIVE WOMEN. Clearly they draw from a non-Femdom database. Just one more ripoff site.

  15. Anne

    October 30, 2018 at 11:46 am

    I’m mistress Anne, a 37-year-old pro dominatrix/fetrix. I rule with a rod of iron… your pain is my pleasure. I am self-employed. I require a slave for total commitment. No creeps or weirdos. Want decent guy who isn’t clueless… a slave that would be my personal property and would only serve and obey my every command, and his humiliation will be for my own pleasure. I will cross-dress you, and you will be entitled to have my collar and enjoy my ever-ready strap-on too. Above all your cock will belong to me and will be in my CBT lock-up, only to be released when I please. I will train you, and you will be very happy and loyal to me always. Within US only, as I can’t have a slave that won’t visit me. ANYONE WHO MESSAGES ME WITHOUT ADDRESSING ME IN THE CORRECT WAY WILL BE DELETED UNREAD… MANNERS FOR MISTRESS ALWAYS!

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