Find a Femdom Seeking Submissive Men

Updated on January 19, 2020

Wondering how to find a femdom or local dominatrix? Whether you desire a brief encounter or an ongoing relationship, what you seek is out there!

Meeting someone you’ll have a special connection with can be tough. And for those of us who have specific kinks we’d like to explore, it can seem even more difficult to find that diamond in the rough.

If you want to meet a femdom who will dominate you and allow you to serve her, you’re going to have to look for her. A sexy domme seeking satisfaction isn’t just going to drop into your lap. If this is your true desire then there are ways to go about it.

Have you been to a munch? A munch is an informal gathering of people in the BDSM lifestyle who meet to hang out, meet new people, discuss matters relating to their community, or just chat in general. There’s no fetish clothing usually and nothing sexual is going on. But there is talking and this is a great opportunity to meet others who will compliment your submissive streak.

You can read more about munches here: The BDSM Munch

Another option for meeting a femdom in “real life” would be to attend fetish nights at local clubs, fetish parties, or even related conventions. Basically, you have to increase your odds by putting yourself into situations where a femdom might be, but also in a situation where you’ll be able to recognize her as such either by her clothing or how she conducts herself.

Want to be even more proactive? If you don’t feel like answering a creepy newspaper ad or paying for an encounter, you’d best give a kinky dating site a chance. These are basically just dating sites that have marketed themselves to people interested in BDSM or particular fetishes, and can offer an excellent way to meet lots of femdoms and local domme women with little effort. You are still going to have to woo that goddess, but at least you have found her and others like her!

See our list of the Best BDSM Dating Sites.

I wouldn’t say that meeting a femdom online is the better option, but if you are serious about finding a femdom then you should add a site like FindaFemdom.com, or an even bigger site like BDSMdate.com to your toolbox. It could end up being the best investment you make in your search. Consider it an additional way to meet the right dominant woman, who may be just outside your circle.

So in the end, I think it’s important to be active by either being more social and possibly joining a femdom dating site to get more exposure to dommes who live near you. It’s not always easy to identify a sexually dominant woman or dominatrix, so put yourself where people are open about their desires and lust for a submissive man.

Got any other tips for meeting femdoms? I’d love your thoughts in the comments below!