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Femdom Ideas: 38 Ways to Dominate a Male Sub

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Looking for femdom ideas to put your male submissive in his place?

Femdom, or female domination, is a new-ish buzzword for an ancient passion. And femdom ideas for kinky play abound!

Take inspiration from these ideas for your next femdom play session. With each suggestion in our list, you’ll find links to more information, how-to, and ways to play.

Femdom Ideas

Browse through all the femdom play ideas below, or jump directly to your favorite flavor of female domination:

Femdom Humiliation Ideas

1. Small Penis Humiliation

SPH, or small penis humiliation, is a  femdom idea that is popular whether or not the male sub is humbly endowed.

Small Penis Humiliation as femdom play

2. Femdom Sissification

The sissification and sissy boy kinks are femdom humiliation ideas. Dress him in baby clothes or women’s clothes, and emasculate him.

Read: Sissy Boy Submissives and Dominant Women

3. Bathroom Control

Giving up control over decision-making in every area, including biological function, to our femdom, is not for everyone (and this can be dangerous, so take caution). But there’s something wildly intoxicating about her having complete power!

4, Sexual Degradation

It’s super erotic for lots of us on either side of sexual degradation- name-calling, criticism, mockery.

Read: Degradation Kink and How to Play

Femdom steps on tie of submissive man on floor

5. Cuckolding

The male cuck will watch as his female partner has sex with another man, and he often won’t have any say in the matter. She will enjoy humiliating him in this way.

Read: Cuckold Roleplay Ideas to Try

6. Cum Cleanup

An extreme humiliation form of cuckolding, degradation, and sissification occurs when a femdom calls on her male sub to “clean up” by tongue after a hot stud makes his mark on, in, or around her.

Read: 7 Ways to Enjoy Your Cum Fetish

7. Anal Dildo Play

Some men feel most exposed and humiliated by ass play. A femdom humiliation idea is to force the sub to masturbate with his ass hole, or to submit to her with various-sized dildos.

Read: Straight Men who Learned to Love Anal

femdom places hand on man's ass for anal play

 

8. Piss Play

With piss play, the femdom will subject the submissive to humiliation and urination, on his face and body.

Read: Piss Play Ideas for Kinky Lovers

9. Wet Pants Humiliation

Conversely, she will humiliate the sub by forcing him to wet his pants, at home, or worse, when out and about. This command can take charge at random, or by phone or text.

10. Forced Feminization

Forced feminization femdom is an extreme femdom sissification practice, that moves beyond sissy boy dress-up and involves complete feminization.

Feminization can involve shaving, makeup, hair, and clothes for emasculation. And in extreme cases surgical reassignment or castration, which we suggest you keep in the realm of fantasy!

forced feminization

Femdom Punishment Ideas

11. Orgasm Denial

The ultimate punishment is to deny his release and relief.

Read: Orgasm Denial Games and Ways to Play

12. Choking

Edge play, or breath play such as choking, can be part of female domination. Although both must be practiced with ultimate safety precautions in place.

Read: BDSM Breath Play Basics

13. Spanking, Flogging, Paddling

Spanking and other forms of impact play such as flogging, whipping, and paddling are a classic punishment for the bad little boy in all of us.

Read: Impact Play Tips for Kinky Couples

blonde femdom with riding crop

14. Naked Humiliation

Leaving him naked and vulnerable, or parading him around in his birthday suit, can be a fun femdom punishment idea.

Read: CFNM: Clothed Female Naked Male Kink

15. Dildo and Strap On Fellatio

Being forced to lick and suck on a dildo or her strap-on cock is the ultimate punishment.

16. Denial

Femdom ideas aren’t just in the bedroom, for those in 24/7 BDSM relationships. Punish him by denying or controlling food, his phone use, or playing video games.

Read: BDSM Training: A Guide for Beginners

submissive man in bondage with hands in ropes behind back

17. Human Furniture

If he can’t behave himself, he may just have to spend the evening as a table or chair where she can put her feet up.

Read: Human Furniture Fetish Ideas

18. Puppy Play

If he wants to be your dog, give him what he wants. Puppy Play kinks can be playful and sweet, but if he’s been a bad dog, he might have to use newspapers or drink out of the toilet because you said so.

Read: Pet Play: All About Animal Roleplay

Femdom with Submissive Man on Leash

Femdom Bondage Ideas

19. Chastity Bondage

Nothing takes place without her say so, not even playing with yourself. Use your words, or chastity devices.

Chastity Play Tips and Tricks

20. Financial Femdom

For some guys, bondage isn’t complete unless he’s literally slaving away for her all day at work, so she can live in luxury while he toils.

Read: Financial Domination Fetish

findoms earn with financial domination

21. Rope Bondage

Classic and beautiful restraint kinks like shibari rope bondage are excellent femdom bondage ideas.

Read: Bondage Techniques and Positions

22. Handcuffs and other Bondage Accessories

The tried and true basics of kink, such as handcuffs and ball gags, work well for female domination.

Femdom Holding Handcuffs approaching male sub

23. Pegging

Far and away one of the most popular sex plays for both femdom and dominated sub is pegging.

Read: Strapon Sex Tips for Beginners

24. The Silent Treatment

With this femdom idea, he can’t say a word until she says so. Or, she ignores him until she feels like interacting.

25. Leash and Collar, on All Fours

Commanding him to accompany her on a leash and collar, on his knees, is a common and hot femdom bondage idea.

Read: 9 Types of BDSM Collars

Submissive Man on Femdom's Leash

Femdom Torture Ideas

26. Cock and Ball Torture

Pleasure and pain mix exquisitely with pinching, slapping, crushing, poking, caging, piercing, and other ways of torturing his cock and balls.

Read: CBT Kink: Cock and Ball Torture

27. Ruined Orgasms

Ruined orgasms, as well as orgasm denial and orgasm control, can be a femdom torture idea.

Read: How to Ruin an Orgasm in the Name of Kink

Dominatrix Sitting on Top of Her Sub

28. Sensory Deprivation

Not being able to control sight, sound, or movement can be torture. Use a sensory deprivation hood, or extreme bondage like mummification, or lock him in an empty room.

Read: Sensory Deprivation Play for Couples

29. Chores

Why should she have to do anything herself? For this femdom idea, the submissive is not only her sexual slave but also a domestic slave.

30. Forced Orgasms

A femdom can deny, control, ruin, and edge orgasms, and force them as a form of extreme bondage and torture.

Read: Forced Orgasm Ideas for BDSM Play

Gentle Femdom Ideas

Femdom is popular with extremely kinky lovers and can be a very intense fetish! But there is lots of room to play with gentle femdom ideas. Gentler femdom is good for those who want to please their partner but don’t aspire towards sexual domination. These ideas are also good when both parties enjoy mild female domination but aren’t looking for extreme kink.

31. Foot Worship

The foot fetishist and the submissive alike can agree with a femdom on the beauty and power of worshipping at the feet of the goddess, whether in stilettos, thigh-high boots, pumps, or slinky strappy skinny sandals.

Read: Foot Worship Ideas to Adore Her Feet

femdom foot worship

32. Spanking

Spanking can be lighthearted and playful, a great gentle femdom idea, and sometimes a stepping stone to more serious impact play.

Read: How to Give a Kinky Spanking

33. Femdom Roleplay

From seductive stepmother to power-mad CEO to doctor and patient, role plays are tried and true ways to wade in or dive into any frame of mind.

Read: BDSM Roleplay Ideas and Scenarios

Dominatrix in latex cat suit

34. Pussy Worship

Pussy worship via prolonged cunnilingus or oral service on command is a win-win, I say.

Read: Pussy Worship: How to Serve a Woman’s Vagina

35. Woman on Top

Let her take what she wants when she wants it.

Read: 5 Kinky Woman On Top Sex Positions

Woman on Top of Lover

36. Mommy Femdom

Nurturing and loving, this type of femdom is the all-powerful mommy!

Read: 5 Kinds of Mommy Fetishes and Kinks

37. Dress-up

When she dresses the part of a goddess, latex queen, or slut in charge, he’ll naturally assume the position he belongs in.

Dominatrix in Black Latex

38. Sensation Play

Not all kink is painful. Play with other sensations: hot and cold, prickly and soft, wet, fuzzy, tickle torment, and more.

Read: Sensation Play and Ideas for Beginners

Do you have a femdom idea to share or a favorite way to play?

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