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Financial Domination Fetish: Findoms & Finsubs

Sexy Business Woman Holding Cash

A few years ago, I was surprised to receive an e-transfer from a guy I’d chatted with on a kink board. “I don’t deserve my paycheck,” he wrote. “I want you to have it.”

I was a bit confused because I was not a sex worker. I had never asked him for money. And I wasn’t looking for a sugar daddy. I assumed there had been mixed signals of some kind.

Later I learned about the financial domination fetish.

There are submissives who get aroused by the act of giving money to women, usually a dominatrix but sometimes an unsuspecting date. They want to be controlled financially as an act of subordination, or feel they are working to fund the luxury lives of their superiors.

The New York Times recently ran an article on this kink. They focused on the findom subset of gender and racial politics, where the domination and submission is political, and about reparations specifically to women of color.

In the article, Joe Kort, a sex therapist points out the obvious—financial domination kinks and relationships are about power. “The money is, in fact, the chains, because dommes are tying up subs financially. The eroticism for the subs comes from feeling owned.”

Findoms and Finsubs

Findoms, (or Findommes), use social media like Twitter, and Tik Tok to post their outfits and exploits of a luxury lifestyle, calling themselves goddesses, and demanding money.

Finsubs, or financial submissives, are turned on by sacrificing the spoils of their labor to their goddesses, even dommes they have never met in person. Finsubs are sometimes called “pay pigs.”

The findoms are usually women, including transgender women, and sometimes, gay men. The pay pigs are almost always men, and in the financial domination fetish circles, this is the way it should be, because men should pay for their past privilege and power, for the sins of the patriarchy and capitalism.

Read: 4 Types of Female-Led Relationships

What is Financial Domination Fetish About?

Some people are turned on by the idea of women as human furniture. And some guys are aroused by turning into human ATM machines.

The financial domination fetish is considered a subset of BDSM, because it is about domination and submission. The means is money and labor, which many see as a more authentic form of slavery than just dressing up or down and using a few ropes now and again.

For the finsubs, the act of giving up their money, emptying their bank accounts, is one they describe as giving them a sensation of calm. Many describe it outright as subspace.

Read: Financial Submission in BDSM Relationships

findoms earn with financial domination

Financial Domination or Exploitation?

Some members of the kink communities at large have voiced concerns of exploitation, as pay pigs also describe the acts as addictive and talk about giving up their life savings. The impact is not just on rich and powerful men being taken down a notch, but felt by their children and families.

Others feel consent is all that is necessary for ethical transactions, and if some people are stupid enough to empty their bank accounts for a thrill, that’s their problem. Just as a casino is not responsible for how much stupid rich people gamble away, neither is a domme posting hot pictures on social media and asking for money.

If payouts turn him on, who are we to take away his pleasure?

I’m a whatever-floats-your-boat person when it comes to our unique kinks and fetishes. But this makes me uneasy. Not sure if anyone can really give consent to this, but of course, it’s not up to me to tell people what to do.

As for myself, I never accepted that electronic funds transfer. Maybe I disappointed him, but I couldn’t do it.

Are you submissive guy looking to be dominated, financially or otherwise? Read our article: Where to Find a Dominatrix

Do you have experience with the financial domination fetish? Please share in the comments.

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