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FLR Lifestyle: 4 Types of Female-Led Relationships

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Lots of men, and women, are looking for a relationship outside of the boudoir that is dominated or controlled by the woman.

The FLR lifestyle, or the female-led relationship, defies longstanding gender stereotypes of male dominance. The FLR also defies notions of equality and egalitarianism. It positions the woman firmly in control of the relationship, with all the authority of the household, decision making, responsibility, and different levels of control over her partner and his life.

Men and women are drawn to the female-led relationship for many reasons. It may be the natural extension of a dominant-submissive kink, or a belief in opposing ancient gender norms.

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4 Types or Levels of Female-Led Relationships

1. Low-Level Female Control

In this level of female-led relationship, it is closer to equal with the scales tipped slightly toward female authority.

Often, the male partner has requested she take the helm in certain areas and encourages more authority and decision-making power from her. She asks for his agreement or cooperation rather than simply giving orders. She consults him for his input.

2. Moderate-Level Female Control

When someone jokes, “We know who wears the pants in that family,” it might be derogatory or it might be matter of fact, but this is usually the kind of relationship such a comment is applied to—the moderate-level female control model.

In this type of FLR, the man is usually looking for a dominant woman and wants her to control most aspects of the relationship, hold authority and decision-making power, and take charge over delegating tasks and responsibilities.

The woman is looking for a relationship where she won’t be in constant conflict with a man trying to control her.

The ultimate responsibility is hers, but she will designate clearly her expectations of where his contributions and decisions are merited. She will make decisions for his personal life and career as well, with his input but her final word. She sets boundaries that both abide by.

3. High-Intensity Female Control

In the high-intensity female-led relationship, the woman is the absolute head of the household, and she is in charge of all aspects of the relationship, the house, finances, etc. In this relationship, it is basically the inverse of old-fashioned marriages where the male was the authority figure and the wife’s role was following his orders and looking pretty.

The man in the high-intensity FLR relinquishes all decision making and control to the female, submits to her will, and focuses on maintaining himself for her pleasure, as well as providing a pleasant home environment for her. He performs childcare, cooking, and cleaning tasks and leaves all direction to her. He will also follow orders in the bedroom and make himself available to her desires.

4. Extreme Female Control

In the extreme FLR, the woman is in charge of everything and the man is in complete submission. She dominates the relationship as well as his personal life, social life, and work life. He surrenders his money or labor to her and only acts with her permission. Her demands are not contested.

The extreme female-led relationships can be very psychologically satisfying to a kinky submissive male if he consents to it and is free to switch it or leave it at any time. But the complete takeover of autonomy and voice can be abusive. Pushing a high-intensity FLR to its limits rather than going extreme is likely best for most dominant-submissive arrangements, but some extreme and experienced subs may truly be most fulfilled here.

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