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How to Be a Good Slave to a Domme

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I’m not vanilla, but I’m not hardcore either when it comes to BDSM. I like to get my kink on and dabble in activities like bondage and role playing, and fetishes. And why not? If sex was always predictable, it wouldn’t be half as fun.

One thing I like to play around with is dominant and submissive roles. Although I find myself to be a true submissive—I like to be tied up and thrown on the bed—I also get a kick out of playing a dominatrix. These roles of domme and slave are all about power exchange, and there’s nothing wrong with swapping places with a partner or just playing the parts when you’re both in the mood.

While there are some couples who are in committed 24-7 dom-sub relationships, most couples only take on the roles of dominant and submissive in the bedroom. And if you’re like me, you just try them on for fun every once in a while.

My partner likes to dote on me, so sometimes I ask him to take it to the next level—be my slave for a day. I put on my sexiest little black dress and my one pair of high heels and thigh-high stockings. I also carry a whip to give him a good smack if he tries to say no to one of my demands.

If you don’t have a partner but are eager to be a good slave to a mistress or dominant woman, read our article: Where to Find a Dominatrix

10 Tips to Be a Good Slave

Let me tell you how to be a good slave and please your mistress, slave..

1. Dress to Impress

Be a good slave and strip down and ask her what she wants you to wear. This might be a fuzzy onesie, a skin-tight latex suit, or nothing at all—my favorite! There might be role playing involved, with you playing a part to satisfy her imagination.

Read: 4 Role Play Ideas for Submissive Men

2. Obey and Aim to Please your Domme

Whatever her title—Mistress, Queen, Madam—you are there to serve. Be respectful and dutiful when obeying her every command. Who knows, you might be rewarded for good behavior.

3. Clean Up after Her

Of course, we expect you to tidy up after yourself, but you must also put away our things and clean up our mess. She may just want to you to be her cleaning slave, benefits included.

4. Cook and Serve Your Domme

A man with culinary skills is impressive, so don’t be surprised if she takes advantage of your abilities. Whatever her heart desires, she’ll want you to provide. That might include shopping for groceries, cooking, or picking up a pizza. Do as she says.

5. Massage Her Body

Whatever part of her body that needs attention, be a good slave and give it. She may want a top-to-bottom body massage or just a long foot rub.

Read: How to Give a Sexy Massage

6. Give Your Domme What She Wants

If she wants you as her fucktoy only, comply and follow orders. If she wants you to go down on her for hours, flex that tongue and get at it.

Read: Pussy Worship: How to Serve a Woman’s Vagina

7. Be a Good Boy

Be a good slave and only speak when spoken to, and don’t give any backtalk if she asks you to do something you don’t want to.

8. Accept Your Punishment

Naughty boys who act out must take their lumps. It may be a yank on the collar she has around your neck or a good swat on your bottom.

9. Relish Your Submissive Role

You may be a dom at heart, but don’t let that take away from your enjoyment of trying something new, especially when it gives your partner a thrill. If it’s just for a day, indulge her every whim.

10. Reflect and Relax

When you come out of the role, talk to her about your experience. Are you ready to be a slave every Sunday, or maybe you want her to be your slave next weekend.

Do you love being a good BDSM slave and want to find an ongoing slave relationship? Read How to Find a BDSM Slave Relationship.

Would you play slave for a day? Or every day? How do you define being a good slave? Let’s chat in the comments.

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