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Male Chastity Play and Cock Locking Devices

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Since when is not doing it hotter than the rest of it?

Male chastity play is hot hot hot right now. It can be a playful variation in sexual experimentation, part of the male chastity kink, or part of BDSM, especially femdom.

Male chastity play can range from simply keeping it in your pants a few dates longer all the way to wearing an iron cage over your cock and balls as a lifestyle subservient to your mistress.

What Is Male Chastity Play?

Chastity means “abstaining from sexual contact.” Most of us experience it by choice, chance, or misfortune, depending on the occasion. Traditionally, it was either religious in nature, or something usually expected of women.

Male chastity refers to the male abstaining from sexual contact, with a partner or with himself through masturbation.

Connecting the dots, male chastity play is a sexual practice or sexual kink where the male consensually chooses to avoid sexual contact.

This may be for a short period of time, for a particular session, or be determined at the direction of a dominant female. It may work via the honor system, through bondage and restraint, through punishment tactics, or through the use of devices that prevent male genitalia from coming into contact with a hand or orifice!

Male chastity play can be part of many kinks or just a variation in sex, but it is most often part of female-led relationships or femdom encounters. Male chastity in femdom turns gender expectations on their head, allows the male to be submissive, and gives authority to the female who controls his chastity.

Read: All About Femdom and 7 Types of Female Doms

Orgasm restraint and orgasm denial can both be related to male chastity kinks. BDSM, sexual humiliation, denial and punishment play, cuckold kinks, and more can all be part of male chastity fetish play or related to it.

Male chastity play can take place in person, or it can be directed by a “keyholder” who is not present but sends rules via text or by telephone. It can be a lifestyle rather than an incidental practice.

Why Male Chastity?

Male chastity might appeal to some men for a few different reasons.

For some men, giving up the gender expectation that they be constantly virile and ready to pound can be a relief. For others, it is a psychological relief not to have to plan, plot, invite, and risk.

For most guys who are into regular male chastity play or into a male chastity lifestyle, giving up control and carrying out the whims of a femdom or of their superior is the appeal.

Chastity can also be part of a teasing kink. There is something uniquely arousing about not being “allowed” or having access to sex. Anything taboo is heightened.

Practicing restraint of being denied something makes it more alluring, so ironically, not having sex is one way to constantly think about and experience arousal and anticipation.

Read: Chastity Play: 4 Reasons It’s So Hot

But male chastity play is not always or even usually about men—it is about women! The femdom who is more often than not part of the male chastity kink can derive enormous pleasure from controlling male sexuality, male desire and discipline, and the power she wields.

Male Chastity Devices

Male chastity play can take place with a hands-off approach and the honor code, but those who are really into it can also experience a variety of male chastity fetish devices that restrict the cock from contact and greatly increase pleasure, anticipation, and submission.

Male Chastity Belt

The male chastity belt’s purpose is the symbolic and physical preservation of male chastity. Some are quite flimsy and really are more symbolic because they are easy to remove, yet others are very elaborate and require a key, usually from a keyholder or femdom (although a male who practices male chastity can keep his own key and choose his own times to use the key or keep locked up.)

The male chastity belt can be a G-string, a belt, underwear, or a jock strap type of product and also contains something that keeps the cock out of reach. This can range from a piece of cloth to a phallic container to an actual cage.

Male Chastity Cage

The male chastity cage can resemble the portion of the male chastity belt that locks up the cock and balls. It can also resemble a medieval torture device! They usually prevent erections as well as contact.

Male chastity cages can come in latex, leather, stainless steel, and more. They can include extras like tightening devices, electric shock, vibrators, or anal plugs. They usually have locking pins or a key, and the keyholder is often a male sub’s femdom who chooses what to do with it.

For even more male chastity device options and where to buy them, see: Kinky Chastity Devices for Men

Electronic Male Chastity Device

There are apps and programs that operate entirely online, both as “entertainment” or as virtual games. You can also hire sex workers to indulge your chastity kink.

Read: Orgasm Denial Games and Ways to Play

Male Chastity Tips

It goes without saying that male chastity play must be completely consensual and not expected of someone who isn’t interested.

Male chastity play that uses a locking cage for cock and balls must be safely executed. A man’s dick needs to breathe, and he needs to urinate. Having erections and flaccid periods is also natural, so have regular unlocked sessions.

Prepare for caging by trimming pubes, showering, and thoroughly drying your cock. You don’t want to be shaved because the skin may get too irritated.

It’s usually up to your domme when and if you get to make sexual contact. If you’re lucky, many femdoms may demand pussy worship, oral service, or other sex acts for her.

Read: Tips and Tricks for Chastity Sessions

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