Sensation Play Ideas
BDSM isn’t all about pain. Many kinksters that live the lifestyle prefer a gentler approach that includes a wide range of sensory play for excitement and stimulation – a mix of sensations from heavy to light. Part of the fun in bdsm is the variety of “scenes” one can experiment with.
What Is Sensation Play
Although sensation play can refer to heavier types of play such as beatings and floggings, the community will often use the term to describe lighter, less painful interactions that include tickling, rubbing, waxing, and icing. These delights are often combined with other elements of bdsm such as bondage or role-playing to enhance the experience.
Why Try Sensation Play
Experienced kinksters often recommend sensation play as a starting place for newbies. They suggest a combination of light bondage mixed with sensory. This way a bottom is able to explore feelings of being helpless without being overwhelmed by the idea of extreme pain. BDSM is all about limits and exploring our comfort levels and fears. If you’ve been trying to find a way to bring a lover into this world, sensation play is a perfect place to begin.
Tools of the Trade
There are many places to purchase sensation toys, but I like to use my creativity and find things around the house that would feel good, even strange against the skin. Think texture – rough, nubbly, smooth, silky, furry, bumpy, scratchy, velvety. Don’t forget temperature which our bodies are highly sensitive to. It doesn’t have to be something naturally hot or cold because you can always put something in the freezer for a few minutes or warm something up in the microwave/oven/hot water to create a texture temperature sensation.
Guessing Game
Now that you’ve found your supply of sensory objects to use, what do you do? Touching your partner with them isn’t all that exciting without a little imagination. This is where light bondage comes in. Tie your partner to the bed or even a chair and blindfold them. Wait a few minutes to let their anticipation build. Play a game where you touch an object to some part of your lover’s body and they have to guess what that object is. For an added dimension, you can reward your partner for correct guesses (two-minute massage) or punish them for wrong answers (two spanks).
Continue with sensation play at a rate that is both comfortable and enjoyable, and of course arousing to both you and your lover. Many bdsm couples that go beyond light sensation play still keep it in the mix, using it as foreplay before escalating to heavier scenes.
What sensations do you enjoy?
Tell us what you think!