BDSM roleplay is great fun, whether you are new to BDSM or have already gone deep into your kinky fantasies and fetishes.
Get inspired with these BDSM roleplay ideas for kinky couples, plus some bondage scenarios for those who prefer roleplay with restraints.
BDSM Roleplay Ideas
1. Horny Housewife and Fix-It Guy
The classic roles of housewife and visitor have been played out a million times in porn, and work well for BDSM roleplay.
Maybe the guy finds the housewife masturbating when he finishes the job and goes to ask her for his check. Or maybe he ties her up in cables he’s using to fix the TV. You can even have your lover play the Domme, if that’s her usual role.
2. Angry Boss and Secretary
Another go-to favorite of mine is this kinky twist on workplace roleplay. You decide the level of punishment that is served for not filing reports on time.
Act this out in the office of your home. Have her bend over the desk and pull her panties down for a good spanking. There are many ways to play the boss-employee roles; just use your imagination.
Read:Â 8 Kinky Boss-Employee Role Plays
3. Depraved Doctor and Patient
For this classic BDSM roleplay, I like to pretend I’ve been put under while my lover ties me down and takes advantage of me. When I wake to find my doctor inserting dildos and other things into me, I feel aroused and don’t ask him to stop.
Read: Doctor-Patient Role Play Ideas
4. Strict Teacher and Student
In this BDSM roleplay, someone needs some discipline for not finishing her assignment. When she is asked to stay after school for detention, it’s not to write lines.
I like to incorporate over-the-knee spanking into this one. It adds a little humiliation to the mix.
Read:Â Naughty Schoolgirl Role Play Scenes
If you have a strong foundation of trust, you may even consider recording one of your BDSM scenes. Watching your inner porn star is super hot and works well for mutual masturbation sessions.
Bondage Roleplay Scenarios
For couples who love bondage scenes and want to explore bondage roleplay, here are a few more roleplay ideas to consider.
1. Break and Enter
Break and enter roleplay works well for couples who have a distinct D/s relationship.
The unassuming submissive will be chilling out in front of the TV when the perp surprises them with a hand over their mouth. The intruder has brought restraints to tie their victim up with, and what follows and how far you go is up to you and your lover.
2. Sex Slave
Sex slave and Master/Mistress is another bondage scenario that can be playful, or go the other way with punishment and reward as part of the action.
Some Doms have actual sex slaves, but for amateur BDSM enthusiasts, this can remain tame and fun. You can demand sex acts while your slave is in restraints, or even leave your slave tied up while you leave the room for a short time if you have enough trust in the relationship.
Read:Â 3 Ideas for Cock and Ball Torture Roleplay
3. Arrest and Interrogation
I like this bondage roleplay for its good-cop, bad-cop dynamic. It’s perfect for threesomes, but whoever plays the police can waver back and forth between personalities if there are only two players.
This BDSM scene also lends itself beautifully to other kinks too, like crossdressing, spanking, flogging, gags, and spatial confinement. There are so many ways this crime-and-punishment scene can go with a little imagination.
Read:Â 4 Over-the-Knee Spanking Role Plays
BDSM Roleplay Tips
As someone who loves role playing with my lovers, I’ve realized that a little planning goes a long way to making your BDSM roleplay scene the most it can be.
When I first starting exploring BDSM and bondage roleplay, I would just spontaneously go into character during sex. For example, if my lover suggested spanking, and I would assume the voice of a schoolgirl and tell him that I hadn’t done my homework.
Don’t get me wrong, spontaneity is a wonderful thing in the bedroom, but the more I become interested in role playing with BDSM, the more I want to make it seem real.
Read:Â Sexual Roleplay: A Guide for Roleplay Beginners
1. Develop your Roles.
In my current relationship, I’m the take charge one who likes to set the scene, even though I always play the submissive. Sometimes I even write a small paragraph about the characters and the scene to send to my lover beforehand, so he has time to develop in his mind who he is and what might happen. This type of preparation really helps to build anticipation!
Read:Â Femdom Roleplay Ideas for Submissive Men
2. Use Costumes and Accessories.
While most of the BDSM and bondage roleplays above can be acted out spontaneously without much planning, you should consider adding a few frills such as roleplay accessories, toys, costumes, and props. This might be the most fun part of getting ready for a scene.
Like me, you probably have items in your wardrobe that you can already use. Or if you want to invest, you can find sex shops that sell kinky costumes for different themes. You can shop for toys and accessories online, or look around the house for suitable props (e.g. ropes and ties can be used for handcuffs, the back of a hairbrush for a spanking paddle.)
Read:Â Let the History of Sex Toys Inspire Your Role Play
3. Stay in Character
If you’re just beginning BDSM role play, it can seem awkward and you might want to burst out laughing at times, but the more you can commit to your role, the more intense it will feel. Sometimes I role play on my own to practice certain lines I want to say that I know will turn my lover on. The only reason to break out of your character should be to use a safe word or when the scene naturally ends.
4. Be Open and Go with the Flow
Even if you’ve planned a BDSM roleplay scene and have an idea how you would like it to transpire, you have to be open to wherever it goes, otherwise you’ll get stuck. This is especially important for submissives to remember, as a dominant will likely want to control the action to a certain degree. When you’re open, amazing things are bound to happen!
For more inspiration, read BDSM Ideas: The BIG List of BDSM Play.
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