Kinky Confessions

How to Find a BDSM Slave Relationship

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I would love to obey a dominant man, to be trained as his personal slave.

This is a kinky confession from one of our readers. Is it really possible to find such an arrangement? You see it in movies, read it in books, and of course fantasize with your own imagination, but how does one go about making it a reality?

How to Find a BDSM Slave or Dom

Your two best bets to finding a D/s relationship are through the BDSM community, or kinky dating sites. You just can’t hang out in bars and clubs every week, hoping to meet a woman who just happens to be a dominatrix, who just happens to be looking for a man to train as her slave, who just happens to have the right chemistry with you. The odds are worse than finding a needle in a haystack.

Meet Local Subs and Doms Where They Play

If you want to meet kinky women, it always helps to live in a large city where kink communities thrive through sex clubs, BDSM conventions, kink workshops, BDSM-themed nights at clubs, and social munches.

If you’ve been exploring BDSM a while, you’ll likely be aware of some of these places or events. If you’re a newbie, just start surfing online to see what’s available. It can feel like a lonely place when you’re alone with your kinks and don’t have friends to talk to about your fetishes and fantasies.

If you get involved in the kink community, whether through online forums or social events, you will connect to more and more people, and maybe find a dominant woman to engage with.

BDSM & Slave Dating Sites

Niche dating sites like BDSMDate.com connect men and women with specific sexual proclivities, kinks, and fetishes. Most of these kinky sites do charge a membership fee, but it will save you a lot of time that it would take beating around the bush trying to find D/s relationships on mainstream sites.

See our list of all the Best BDSM Dating Sites.

On a BDSM site, you can write a specific dating profile that outlines your desires and kinks, that explains clearly the kind of dom and slave relationship you are looking for. You can take your time browsing, sending messages, and writing replies, all from the comfort of home. It may take some time to find the kinky relationship you want, but you can always have fun with submissive hookups until you do!

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