Kinky Confessions

How to Find a BDSM Slave or Master

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I would love to obey a BDSM Master, to be trained as his personal slave.

This is a kinky confession from one of our readers. Is it possible to find a Master/slave relationship? You see it in movies, read it in books, and of course fantasize with your own imagination, but how does one go about making it a reality?

How to Find a Master Slave Relationship

Your two best bets to finding a BDSM Master or slave are through BDSM dating sites or the BDSM community.

You can’t just hang out in bars and clubs every week, hoping to meet a woman who just happens

  • to be a dominatrix
  • to be looking for a man to train as her BDSM slave, AND
  • just happens to have the right chemistry with you.

The odds are worse than finding a needle in a haystack. But not if you know where to look for your BDSM slave and master relationship.

Master & Slave Dating Sites

The beauty of Master slave dating on BDSM sites, is that everyone can declare their status from the start. Slave seeking Master. Master seeking slave.

BDSMDate.com

BDSM dating sites  like BDSM Date connect men and women with specific sexual proclivities, kinks, and fetishes.

BDSMDate.com is my favorite site for connecting with local submissives and Masters, and I’ve been a member for a long time. A LOT of people use this site so there’s always plenty of potential partners close by, and it’s a lot of fun with all the video chat features.

Join BDSM Date

Most kinky sites do charge a membership fee, but it will save you a lot of time. Otherwise you’ll spend a long time beating around the bush trying to find D/s relationships on mainstream sites.

On a BDSM site for Master slave dating, you can write a specific dating profile that outlines your desires and kinks, that explains clearly the kind of Master or Mistress and slave relationship you’re looking for.

For tips on setting up the best dating profile you can, read: How to Write a BDSM Profile.

You can take your time browsing local BDSM slaves and Masters, sending messages, and writing replies, all from the comfort of home.

It may take some time to find the Master and slave relationship you want, but you can always have fun with BDSM hookups until you do!

To see more options for slave master dating, see our favorite spots:

Best BDSM Dating Sites

Meet Masters and BDSM Slaves Where They Play

If you want to meet local Doms and subs, it always helps to live in a large city where BDSM communities thrive.

Consider exploring sex clubs, kink conventions, BDSM workshops, BDSM-themed nights at clubs, and social munches.

Read: Everything You Need to Know about BDSM Munches

If you’ve been exploring BDSM a while, you’ll likely be aware of some of these places or events. If you’re a newbie, just start surfing online to see what’s available.

I know it can feel like a lonely place when you’re alone with your kinks, and don’t have friends to talk to about your fetishes and fantasies.

But if you get involved in the BDSM community, whether through online forums or social events, you will connect to more and more people, and maybe find your future BDSM slave or Master.

Read: 8 Tips to Find Your Kink Community

Mistress and Slave

I keep using the terms “Master and slave” in this article, but in many cases the Master is a Mistress.

To be sure, there are a lot of submissive men out there looking for a Mistress slave relationship, or desire the FLR lifestyle.

If that sounds like you, you’ll also fit in nicely at BDSMdate.com.

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