Smoking Fetish: All About Capnolagnia

This week’s kinky confession comes from a man who has a smoking fetish.

I love seeing a sexy woman smoking a cigarette, and I love it when she catches me looking. My biggest kink is making out with a female smoker, and having her exhale her creamy thick smoke into my lungs. If by chance you’re a sexy smoker, and you share this kink…  ~Ken

It’s not the first time I’ve heard from a man who says watching a sexy dame light up then exhale turns him on. I smoked for many years, and still do once in a blue moon. And it works both ways, in case you were wondering.

What Is Smoking Fetish?

Capnolagnia, the technical term for smoking fetish, is the sexual arousal that comes from watching or imagining a person smoking, or engaging in the consumption of tobacco oneself. So maybe just seeing a woman with a cigarette on a patio is going to make your dick tingle, or maybe this splendid sight will have you rushing home to masturbate. Like every fetish, you’ll find a spectrum of intensity.

How Does Smoking Fetish Develop?

There are many possibilities and theories of how a smoking fetish might develop, but as with many it often begins at an early age. If you grew up with parents who smoked or you yourself picked up the habit and were part of smoking culture (not nearly as prevalent these days) then watching women smoke was there for an imprint, whether sexual or not.

Back when it was okay to include smoking in advertisements and artistic mediums—magazines, billboards, tv shows and commercials—smoking was usually portrayed as sexy, alluring, dangerous, or mysterious. Most of the people smoking that you saw gave off a certain type of confidence or swagger. If you didn’t want to be like them, you certainly were drawn to them if not aroused sexually. (I won’t discuss the misogyny that was inherent in so many ads.)

There is definitely a taboo and associated recklessness with smoking that can be a turn on—not just for men, but for women too. It works with the bad boy reputation that many of us gals find so alluring.

What Fetishes Mix with Capnolagnia?

If part of the turn on is watching the actual smoke, you might see this as a crossover of breath play, even though it’s not about restricting one’s breath. Maybe watching her blow smoke rings at you while you stroke yourself is your kind of safe breath play.

Because most films and TV shows have restrictions on characters smoking, it’s fun to add smoking to your own role plays. (I still think they should have used those fake cigarettes for Sons of Anarchy—how many bikers don’t smoke? While I’m not suggesting someone who is not already a smoker pick up this habit to satisfy you, if your date or lover already smokes, you can suggest a script that brings your fantasy to life.

Although this fetish is primarily visual, some may also enjoy the scent of cigarettes. For real. Some men have a thing for clove cigarettes or a particular brand. This fetish branch also extends to the cigar fetish.

Read: Reasons We Have a Cigar-Smoking Fetish

There is often a crossover with the fire fetish. I love to light a cigarette on a burning ember while sitting around a campfire—would this turn our dear reader on?

How Can One Satisfy their Smoking Fetish?

If you want to date or hook up with a smoker, the easiest way to do this is by tweaking the search on your online dating account to not exclude smokers or only include smokers. You will already have a leg up because more people than not are turned off by smoking. I’ve actually gone on a couple of first dates with guys who wouldn’t see me again after I smoked just one cigarette.

Read: Revealing Your Kinks in a Dating Profile

But you don’t have to actually date a smoker to satisfy your smoking fetish. You can just go where the people are—smokers are everywhere, albeit not as many as there used to be. More and more people are giving it up, as it can cause many problems and complications for your health and well being.

Of course, when you can’t quite make your fetish happen in real life, there’s always porn. With porn, you’ll find just about every kink or turn on played out, many you didn’t know even existed. Will it be just as you imagine it? Probably not, but it’s something to hold you until you find the real deal.

Lastly, if you’re keen to meet other fetishists, see our recommendations for the Best Fetish Dating Sites For Every Kink.

Here’s a few questions for smoking fetishists: Can a woman vaping turn you on? What about seeing her smoke a joint without tobacco? Are there hybrid fetishes that can replace the cigarette?

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