Curious about primal play and looking for ideas?
Take a closer look at primal sex and how to enjoy wild, animalistic sex with your lovers.
What is Primal Play?
Primal play is a new and more natural lifestyle. For some folks it’s a kink, but many find it more definitive—an orientation or a return to our true state. Primal lovers are not interested in tame, civilized sex but a more intense animalistic union, complete with mating rituals, hunting, and the takedown of sexual prey.
Many primal enthusiasts reject unnatural products like condoms or choose sheepskin condoms, and reject manscaping and perfume that hides one’s natural scents and oils. You’ll want to talk about these things in advance in terms of safety and how far your primal fantasy bleeds into daily life.
Some primal fetishists want to hunt their own food or at least eat paleo, not mingle over martinis and French pastries at fine restaurants. It’s more about pemmican and running barefoot, scratched and bloody, as they circle each other and then fuck.
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You’ll want to communicate openly to find out where you stand comfortably—keeping this kink as pure fantasy or integrating it in your day-to-day life.
8 Primal Play Ideas
1. Play Predator and Prey (The Chase)
Hunting each other out is something we all do anyways, even if it means using a sex and dating app on a modern device like a Smartphone.
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With primal play, the hunt is a very important part of sex and adds to the tension, excitement, and danger.
This is where dominance and submission are established—it could be the male or female partner, or it could be an alternating dance between both parties.
This can get really exciting if you play out in the woods or fields, tracking each other, hiding, or running after each other.
Primal play fetishists often reject BDSM terminology and favor nature’s versions of the same power games, preferring to act out predator and prey.
2. Circle Each Other
You might think ballroom dancing or the tango are high art forms of civilization, but they have their very roots in animal seduction, from the yes-no play, to the gyrating synchronicity.
With primal kink, you will go way back to “circling” rather than contemporary cultural interpretations of animals getting to know each other.
Watch a few videos of different primates or creatures and their mating behavior to get the idea if you are new or clueless. Circling is a very important part of the primal play dance.
You will basically get acquainted with the other animal—your lover—by greeting, sniffing, circling, backing off, moving forward. Smell is important, and you move around in a kind of push and pull, similar to boxer’s circling the ring—smelling, assessing, checking each other out. This ritual puts you in a primal headspace and heightens your senses.
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3. Wrestle
Wrestling and fighting are essential aspects of primal sex and can be incredibly erotic. There are power games at hand, danger, adrenaline, plus intense physical contact.
If you ever see animals playing together, it looks an awful lot like mixed martial arts! When they get sexual, it’s even more intense.
Often this is called “floor play,” but it may also take place during the hunt and outdoors.
Queening and Kinging are aspects of floor play or wrestling. This is establishing dominance and a common part of primal play. When a female uses her legs to push a male foe away, then uses them to pin him down, often with her vulva over his face, she takes control. She can seek pleasure from here, or she can “suffocate” him and hold him off.
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When the male takes sexual dominance over the female, it is called Kinging.
4. Bite and Scratch
Using our hands, teeth, and feet are an integral part of primal sex. Whether during wrestling or actual sex, primal play expresses a lot of anger, arousal, lust, and love through the mouth and teeth, through fingers and fingernails, hair pulling, and more.
5. Dress Up
While primal play is about wild human sex, some choose to channel their inner wolf or caveman.
You can do this in full regalia, enacting animal rites with full costume. More likely, you will want to try wearing animal skins, skipping artificial scented products, and leaving your body hair au naturel.
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You can use antlers to wear or wreaths of vines and flowers like old pagan sex rites that mimic the gods, or to take on wild spirits.
6. Practice Your Mating Call
Primal play is only silent in between the sounds. Let out your inner animal without inhibition, and pant, growl, groan, cry, and scream in ways that come naturally to you.
7. Engage in Athletic Sex
Arguably, pumping iron is unnatural, but lifting tree trunks or carrying an elk are natural. primal sex is animated and athletic, involves running, hiding, jumping, wrestling, and rough, raw thrusting.
8. Use BDSM and Fetish Paraphernalia
Although many primal play purists eschew the artifice of plastic or manufactured sex toys, it is still a form of BDSM play, albeit a very natural form that often switches roles rather than keeping them static. (In other words, a man may not identify as submissive, or a woman, either, but will take on that role some of the time, or switch it up during the same-sex play.)
Read: What Does It Mean to Be a Switch during Sex?
However, sex toys like restraints and dildos are often welcomed, along with leather and animal skin rugs. Some primal play fetishists prefer to use what they find in nature—vines, bones, antlers, etc.
Since we don’t live in the wild, we don’t have the microbiome that we used to, to ward against bacteria and disease—use found elements to set the scene, but don’t penetrate with bones and sticks and any other found objects! Some primal play is about going bigger and deeper, so if you want something resembling a horse cock you’ll have to substitute a dildo designed for safe fucking.
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