Want to increase the quality and quantity of sex you’ll be having in 2014? Forget the resolution to hit the gym (although this could actually help!), and focus on creating a list of ways you’ll increase you and your partner’s sexual satisfaction this year.
The thing about goals is that you’re generally not going to accomplish them if you don’t know specifically what they are. I think I’m pretty safe in saying that we’d all like more and better sex this year, but how are you going to accomplish that? The truth is, this is going to very personal because it depends on what exactly it is that is holding you back or preventing it from happening now. What I’m suggesting is that you make your own sexy resolutions list, but if you need inspiration I’ll let you take a look at mine…
Be (Even) More GGG
If you don’t know what GGG stands for, it means Good, Giving, and Game, and was coined by Dan Savage of Savage Love. This means making a commitment to being the best sex partner you can be. Be good at what you do, be generous and giving in the sack, and game for trying new things even if they aren’t really your thing. I like to think that I am a damn good lay, but there is always room for improvement. For instance, I’m not personally into foot fetish or worship of any kind, but if my aim is to be more GGG, then I should be ready to indulge a partner’s desire for these types of activites. So long as it doesn’t pose any real threat, I am going to be as giving and game as I can be!
More Asking, More Talking
I can be pretty quiet with my partners. I’m not talking about making “noises”, because in fact I am pretty damn loud that way. But I am not much for talking in the bedroom. Can’t we just ravish each other and read each other’s minds? Well, since most of us are NOT mind readers, this resolution must be addressed this year. I resolve to be clear, verbally, with my partner when there is something specific that I like or don’t like. I resolve to give more verbal feedback when he is doing things wonderfully. And hey, I might even divulge one of those deep dark fantasies that I’m so good at keeping to myself.
Get Over Lingering Body Issues
Again, I’ve done pretty good on this one thus far in my life. I don’t mind having the lights on nor do I make disparaging comments about my body. I don’t need constant reassurance from a lover. BUT, there are times when I will actually avoid a night that could turn sexual simply because I don’t feel sexy that day. This is obviously valid sometimes, like when I’m stressed or feeling under the weather, but sometimes I just feel… yeah, I’m gonna say it… fat. Time for a dose of reality and realizing that if I wasn’t too heavy for sex yesterday then I’m just fine today. “Feeling” fat is total bullshit and I’m gonna kick this one to the curb.
Be Sex Ready!
This one extends from #3 above. I really do want to have more sex this year, with whoever might be my partner at any given time. So I’m gonna be ready for it! I’m going to both eliminate the silly things that I might use as an excuse to keep my clothes on, and take steps to feel my sexy best on the spur of a moment. For me, this means keeping my legs shaved, getting the cat fur off the pillow cases, being sexual with myself during any dry spells, and investing a little more in what I’m wearing UNDER my clothes. (There is really something to be said for wearing sexy lingerie even under simple jeans and a sweater.) Oh, and reading more kinky erotica, which is great for discovering new ideas and fantasies! Basically, get ready for more sex both physically, AND mentally.
Get Down To It More Often
Whether I’m in a full blown relationship or not, I’m going to have a sex filled year. I’m resolve to keep my profile active on Alt.com. I’m going to be social and up my flirting game as best I can. (I am a horrible flirt!) I am going to be open to possibility. When I find that partner that I seek, he won’t know what hit him! In fact, if I had a partner right now this post would have been titled I’m Going To Have Sex Every Single Day This Year.
What are your sexual new years resolutions? Dare to share? Please let me know in the comments below..
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