For a lot of guys, the idea of being penetrated with a strap-on dildo is simply a bridge too far. Whether it’s because it doesn’t fit with their idea of masculinity, or because they don’t like the idea of giving that much control over to their female partner, a lot of men just don’t want to go there.
This is really no different than being nervous about any other manner of kinky play, however. If you’re a sub who is into spanking, think about the first time you were bound and spanked; wasn’t your nervousness about the unchartered territory part of the excitement?
For your female partner, letting her penetrate you is both sexually titillating and empowering. You are putting her in the driver’s seat, so to speak, and ceding control in a way that shows your trust in her. It’s not just a turn-on, it’s a way to communicate that you consider her an equal, and that you trust her to take control of your encounter, physically and emotionally.
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For your first strap-on experience, be sure to have lots of lube on hand, and tell your partner to start slowly and gently, just as you would if your roles were reversed and she was on the receiving end of anal sex for the first time. Try to relax and be passive. Don’t fight the strap-on as it pushes inside you, as that will just make it harder for both of you to enjoy the experience.
Once you get past your inhibitions, you’ll find that being penetrated anally actually feels very good. There are pleasure centers within your rectum that you didn’t even know existed. When your lover finds those with the end of the strap-on, you might find yourself wondering why you didn’t try being on the receiving end of anal penetration a long time ago!
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