Want to talk dirty to your sex partner but need practice? Read on…
Is dirty talk something you want to add to your repertoire, but feel nervous about due to inexperience? I’ve heard from a lot of people that they’d like to try dirty talk, but it makes them feel silly. Or they have a partner who is urging them to whisper dirty nothings in their ear, but they just can’t seem to do this and feel sincere about it. I’m going to propose you try practising with a complete stranger!
No, I’m not suggesting you cheat on your partner or go out and hire an escort. What I’m proposing can be done from the comfort of your own home, on your personal computer, without breaking any kind of commitment you may have with your significant other. Unless of course you aren’t “allowed” to use porn, in which case you might have bigger issues than figuring out how to talk dirty!
If you’re a guy, there are tons of sexy women online right now, on camera, who are going to make you feel like a million bucks while you chat them into a frenzy of wetness and masturbation. And hell, if you’re a woman there are also a lot of guys who would love to chat one on one with a horny lady looking to pop her dirty-talk cherry! Yep, I’m talking about webcam sites with live models in sexy lingerie who offer their services to anyone who’d like to chat with them one on one. These services include giving you an all request nude show, complete with toys and fetish or whatever you might be into, and yes, lots and lots of dirty talk!
Follow these steps for practising dirty talk and you’ll be a Don Juan between the sheets in no time…
1) Join a Webcam Site. (See list at bottom of post.) Pretty much all of them are free to join and this will give you access to chatting with all the women in the “open-chat” rooms. Chat with a bunch of them in this free open chat until you find someone that strikes your fantasy, shares your fetish, or whatever. Big tip: pick one that has a good grasp on the English language and extra points if she can type quickly!
2) Go Private. Going private means taking the model into a “private” room where all the other guys aren’t going to see your chat and where the model will give you her full, undivided attention. Yum! Is this going to cost you? The answer is yes, but we’re talking about gaining a skill that is going to last you a lifetime once you get comfortable with it. Don’t put a price on becoming a better lover, okay? Some sites are cheaper than others though, so shop around.
3)Dirty Talk Time. This may sound silly, but I recommend you begin by telling the model that you want to talk dirty but that you’re new to it. You may think there’s no “game” in a move like this, but that’s the beauty of this situation. You don’t have to impress this woman! This is practice time, remember? So by letting her know that you’re there primarily to talk dirty (and yeah, probably to get off, too), she’s going to help you out and not waste your time. If she isn’t responsive to this then get out of her room and try another model. Don’t get discouraged.
Many of these chat sites offer two-way audio and that’s as close to real dirty talk that you’re going to get. If you feel weird about this then try just typing the dirty talk with her in the beginning. (That’s why I recommend looking for a fast typist.) After you’re comfortable, you can try talking to her over a microphone. If you’ve found a model that you have a good connection with then things will heat up fast.
4) Optional Advanced Move. Bring your parnter in on the fun! Once you’re comfortable with the whole cam chat experience, invite your woman to join you. This can be really exciting, and you should get to know more about her turns ons. Ask her to try chatting with the model, and when you’re doing the dirty talk, try to get her feedback on what she finds sexy. For related information, see the post: Tips for Watching Porn as a Couple
5) Bring it to the Bedroom. Once you’re feeling more confident with vocalizing your desires and saying things to rev up your partner, it’s time to try it out in real life. Ask your partner to moan when she hears something she likes, if you’re having a hard time discerning your progress. Above all, cultivate confidence. That “silly” feeling comes from self-doubt. Be playful and have fun with your dirty talk!
Sites to Meet Women for Talk Dirty Practice:
For the kink inclined, these chat sites offer fetish and bdsm models, some in dungeon settings as well!
Flirt4Free– Features women, men, and transexual models. More professional than most sites.
StreamMate – One of the best in technical terms. Easy to reload credits without leaving the chatroom which is essential when a session is going well.
ImLive – Loads of models. Some models offer “happy hour” prices which can help for those on a budget.
Enjoy! If you have any other questions about talking dirty or stories to share, let’s talk about it in the comments below.
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