One of the greatest aspects of having a lover is the kissing connection. It’s one way we get so excited about a new partner—we spend lots of time kissing and letting the hormones, pheromones, and other biological processes unfold.
It makes sex better when we kiss a lot, but we tend to forget how important kissing is once we get used to it with a partner. Then we discover kissing all over again when we get into a sexual relationship with someone new.
4 Ways to Incorporate Kissing into Kinky Relationships
1. Make Out
Explore necking, petting, and your imagination when turning each other on before taking off your clothes.
One of the hottest kisses that ever happened to me was when Billie D. in college whispered, “Open your mouth, and don’t move” and proceeded to lick the inside of my open mouth. I practically came in my Levis.
The main course isn’t going anywhere. The great thing about being a sexually active adult is having sex, but you can get more mileage out of that pleasure by remembering the thrill at every stage and pushing it to its limits. Spend more time just getting busy making out once in a while.
2. Engage in Chastity Play
Any games that toy with waiting, restraints, orgasm torture, the virgin-whore dichotomy, or dressing up as a nun can benefit from more kissing.
Don’t just lock her into a chastity belt and leave her there, because she’s more likely to close her eyes and plan out her to-do list than lay there going mad with desire if she hasn’t been stoked half out of her mind.
If you tease her with long, slow kisses, and cover her whole body with your mouth—and she can’t pull you in closer or get out of bonds to touch herself—she’s going to just keep escalating to new arousal levels. Take it as far as you can, which is further than you think.
Remember when you weren’t yet having sex—with her, or at all? How you would kiss at every chance, for hours? Do that, and double it!
3. Use Your Teeth
Bring the vampire’s kiss into your bedroom. No need to hurry when you know you’re going to bring her into eternity with you.
Start off with the sweet and affectionate kisses of a naive school chum, then build up to dirty, violent, hungry, ravenous kisses. Incorporate intense sucking and biting of each other’s throats, wrists, inner thighs, and ears. Experiment without rushing, trying all kinds of vicious kisses.
Don’t give into desperate lust and shortchange the kissing and biting by having sex too soon. See how long you can stand it, and give your body time to adjust to the intensity of each others’ mouths. I’m not suggesting you break skin, just leave an impression!
4. Worship the Pussy
Oral sex is a form of kissing. Imagine her vagina is a mouth. It has lips and a cavity and responds to the penetration of your tongue, the flickering of her clitoris, licking, lapping, sucking, biting.
Play BDSM games of restraint where you “torture” her with endless, merciless oral sex. Don’t give into her begging and pleading, and don’t penetrate her with anything at all except your tongue. When she’s bucking against your face so desperate for relief, get slow and gentle and just run your lips lightly against hers.
If she’s the dominant one, opening her vagina wide and having her sit on your face while you lap her into a string of orgasms is heavenly humiliation. Worship her pussy and suffocate yourself on pussy kisses.
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