The only surefire way to know if your partner wants to have kinky sex is to ask her. While these signs might give you a clue as to where her head is at, they do not constitute a green light in terms of trying new things in bed.
That said, it can be fun to speculate about future possibilities and even entertain the notion of kicking things up a notch. Here are some clues that kinkier sex might be on the horizon for you.
4 Signs She Wants Kinky Sex
1. She Asks about Your Fantasies
If the topic of fantasies comes up, you can be fairly certain that she’s hoping you have some and that they are kinkier than the vanilla parfait sex you’ve been having up until this point. If she sounds impatient when she asks, or kind of defeated, as if she knows the answer will be no, but she’s giving it one last shot, you might want to start thinking of ways to spice things up.
Take her lead. Even if you don’t have any fantasies of your own, show an interest in hers. Don’t push yourself too far beyond your comfort zone, but make an effort to meet her somewhere in the middle.
2. She’s Researching Kinks Online
Perhaps you caught a sideways glance at her phone only to discover that she was reading up on the intricacies of Japanese school-girl bondage porn. While there’s a chance she’s just curious, there’s a greater possibility that something about the subject excites her.
Don’t ambush her in the moment with something like, “What in the hell are you reading?” Rather, keep this little tidbit of information to yourself until the time is right. Wait until she drops some hints about trying new things in the sack, or until you find an private-school uniform in her closet.
3. She’s Shopping for Sex Toys
Have you noticed any kinky additions to her toy box? Nipple clamps? Limb spreaders? An anal hook? If you’re in a monogamous relationship and are not accustomed to engaging in kinky sex, you can bet she’s wanting to experiment and is just waiting for the right time to bring it up.
If you’re in an open relationship, don’t assume that she plans on using any of these things with you! But if you’re game and want in on the action, casually mention your interest in her new accessories and see how she responds.
4. She Shares Stories of Kinky Hookups
She probably wouldn’t be talking about the time that she and her ex fucked in the park unless she wanted to try it again. Pay close attention to her tone. Does she sound wistful or excited as she recounts specific details? Is she getting turned on by the memory of it? If so, you might want to start scoping out some good outdoor spaces for sex.
If she seems at all distressed by the event, or she’s sharing in response to a question like, “Where’s the weirdest place you ever did it,” I would suggest that you save your advances for the indoors.
What signs have you been presented with that ultimately led to kinkier sex? Share them in a comment!
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