There’s someone new in your life, and you’re thinking of taking things to the next level? How do you introduce them to your kinky side? Here are four ideas for introducing kinky sex to your lover, whether they are someone completely new to kink or someone a bit more jaded who you’ve already known for years.
1. Have the Conversation
It may sound obvious and it may seem intimidating, but sometimes just having the conversation can be the most effective way to bring kinky sex into the bedroom. Let your new partner know what you’re into, and ask them what they may be into or are willing to try. Pillow talk like this can come in many forms – a truth or dare game on a Friday night staycation or late night confessions of the most erotic kinky kind. Keep in mind, when and where you choose to start the conversation also affects the outcome!
The added bonus of having a talk is figuring out deal breakers. It may be that you and your new friend are sexually incompatible, and that’s okay. Good to find out early!
2. Play a Game
Play truth or dare with your lover to reveal what their secret kinks might be. You can even bring in some gentle props – soft sexy feathers or cherry vanilla-flavored lubes – to raise the stakes of your sexy game. It’s a simple way to open up and at the same time have fun in a comfortable setting.
3. Try a Dating Site
You can always look for play partners who are already into kinky sex. One great dating site that focuses on hot women who are open about their erotic adventures is BDSMdate.com. Their profiles take the guess work out of finding a woman who’s into kinky sex. All you have to do is choose the girls who suit your fancy!
4. Bring In Another Partner
One of the most thrilling things for almost anyone is the idea of having a threesome with a hot third. Dating sites like FindaThreesome.com have plenty of options for polyamorous playmates interested in kinky sex and looking for other like-minded people to play with. You never know – your partner may be more willing than than you expect!
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