A lot of folks, men and women, associate the handjob with masturbation, and leave it for solo play.
I became more interested in upping my handjob techniques when I met a man who loves a good old fashioned handjob. I always placed the blowjob well above the handjob, in terms of sensation and excitement for men, so at first I didn’t quite get it.
I was more than happy to give this lover handjobs, but I also wanted to explore ways to make it more thrilling. I think this is an important part of keeping sexual relationships fresh—building on what pleases one another, and taking pleasure in your lover’s pleasure.
Whether you only enjoy handjobs by your own hand, or don’t expect too much from someone else’s, there’s sure to be one suggestion here that will tickle your fancy. Try one today.
6 Ways to Kink Up a Handjob
1. Touch Her at the Same Time
Nothing livens up a handjob when the pleasure is being reciprocated in real time. Similar to the intensity of being in the 69 sex position of giving and receiving simultaneously, fingering and rubbing her while she has her hands wrapped around your cock is undeniably hot.
Uncontrollable spasms from both you and your partner will keep the action zig zagging in unpredictable patterns.
2. Try Temperature Play
Some like it hot, but some like it cold. You may be in a naturally hotter or colder place, like the shower or in a lake, or you may need to use what’s available to adjust the temperature. Try ice cubes, heating pads, or a cup of hot or cold water for dunking. Warming and cooling lubes are also fun to experiment with.
3. Explore Sensations
This is something you can explore with your eyes open or with a blindfold for added anticipation. There are so many things in one’s environment that can give an unexpected thrill during a routine handjob. Open your refrigerator for inspiration. Try placing a large tomato in the microwave for fifteen seconds, core it, then slide it over your cock. And if she’s peckish, she can eat it as it falls apart, right after you come!
4. Role Play
Who doesn’t like a kinky nurse who needs to pay special attention to your cock, massaging, kneading, maybe even suckling to make sure you taste just right. If a woman dressed up as a sexy nurse, boss lady, or prison warden gets you hard, start acting your part and pull down your pants.
5. Experiment with CBT
If you’re a natural submissive, you’ve likely fantasized or already tried some form of cock and ball torture. Even if you’re not a sub dude, let her take the reins and manhandle your cock with a little more fervor than usual. Encourage her to grab, squeeze, pinch and pull it to your limit. She can flick it and spank it with the palm of her hand, especially if you’ve been a bad boy.
6. Take It on the Road
The best thing about a handjob is that it can happen just about anywhere, with little to no advance planning. She can touch you in the car, at the restaurant, on the train, or while waiting for the bus. For those who like spontaneity, but not necessarily full-on sex in public, it can be a happy medium. Let her slide her hand into your joggers while you shop, or let it out at the movies for her to stroke.
Also, a handjob need not always be merely part of the foreplay—it can also be the main course.
What makes a handjob kinky for you? Please share in the comments.
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