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What Is a Hands Free Orgasm?
A hands-free orgasm is exactly what it sounds like—to reach orgasm without the aid of you or your partner’s hands.
Orgasm through masturbation, alone or together, is most often achieved by using our hands. We all have a trusted-and-true way of “getting there,” and most of the time we’re not experimenting—we just want to get off in the shortest time from initial arousal.
But why not experiment? Manual masturbation may be the quickest way, but it can get stale fast, especially if you’re single and don’t have partner or regular hookup sex mixed in for variety.
A hands-free orgasm can be exciting—kinky, playful, challenging, and fun! Let’s look at different ways to come without hands.
Read: 5 Ways to Make Masturbation Kinky
15 Ways to Orgasm Hands Free
1. Humping and Grinding
Rubbing your body, particularly your genitals against a lover is one of the best and easiest ways to climax without using your hands. You can do this just about anywhere, from the couch to the shower to the dance floor. The friction against your genitals will make you hard or wet, and your mind will take you to the finish line.
Read: 17 Non-Penetrative Sex Ideas and Fetishes
2. Breathing Techniques
Orgasmic breathing can be done using a variety of techniques that simulate an orgasm before an actual orgasm. After some practice, you will be able to sync your breathing, in and out, with the pulsing you feel between your legs. Add your imagination, and you will get there.
Read: BDSM Breath Play Basics
3. Sex Toys
Women can try hands-free sex toys that she leaves inside her or wears in her panties. For men, there are cage-like devices and cock rings. The options are endless for all genders and sexual orientations, and there are remote-controlled sex toys that give a partner power over how fast you come.
Read: Tips for Shopping for Sex Toys
4. Kegels and Exercise
Many women have experienced hands-free orgasms as a surprise by-product of exercising. Contracting different muscles to strengthen the pelvic floor keeps you focused on that part of the anatomy, which can make the mind wander… and imagine other wonderful delights. Try this at home, not the gym.
5. Dirty Talk and Fantasies
Many people use dirty talk or fantasies to send an already aroused partner over the edge during sex. When you know your partner’s kinky fantasies, it doesn’t take much to push them towards orgasm. This is why role playing is so popular with not only BDSM enthusiasts, but also vanilla couples who are new to kink.
Read: Talking Dirty And Knowing What To Say
6. Erotic Literature
While men are more visual when it comes to what turns them on, especially when they are flying solo, women often prefer what’s written on the page. Besides the popular Fifty Shades series, there are plenty of books on the BDSM spectrum to make you come hands free. And you only need your fingers to turn the page.
Read: Writing Erotica for Your Lover
7. Kinky Porn
For those who do prefer visual stimulation to get off hands free, porn is available. Watch your usual go-to scenes, but also explore new sites or new genres that you wouldn’t typically go to. Sometimes novelty in porn can take us to new heights when it comes to arousal, whether it’s something we would try in real life or not.
Read: 5 Benefits of Watching Kinky Porn
8. Nipple Play
When you’re not using your hands on your genitals, they are free to explore and stimulate other erogenous zones. The nipples, for both men and women, are extremely sensitive and can bring you to climax alone. Use your mouth to lick, suck, nibble your lover’s pert nipples until they can’t take it anymore.
Read: His and Hers Guide to Nipple and Breast Torture
9. Shower Stimulation
Women have been enjoying hands-free orgasms in the shower since the lovely hand-held shower head came along. A removable shower head with different settings that adjust pressure and tempo can stimulate one’s genitals extremely well and make climax quick. Enjoy this hands-free orgasm alone or with a partner.
Read: Shower Play Ideas for Sexy Lovers
10. Erotic Hypnosis
Erotic hypnosis is becoming more popular with kinky couples exploring fantasies, motivations, and BDSM power exchange. There are trained professionals that you can hire, but there are also many YouTube videos that share tips and techniques for hands-free orgasms.
Read: Hypno Fetish: 9 Types of Hypnosis Kinks
11. Scissoring
Trying different sex positions is always good, and scissoring is a perfect way to climax without using your hands. Face your partner, lying down, and interweave your legs so that your genitals are touching. Grab one another or use your hands to grab furniture to push into one another, creating that beautiful friction. Add some dirty talk.
Read: 13 Types of Sex Positions, Endless Possibilities
12. Oral Sex
Who needs hands when you have a tongue? For some, the tongue is preferred to any manual manipulation of genitals. Unless you’re in Cirque du Soleil, you’re unlikely to be performing autofellatio, so ask your lover to see if they can get you there by tongue alone. Orgasm games only make things more interesting, and challenging.
Read: Pussy Eating Fetish: 5 Cunnilingus Kinks
13. Blindfolds and Bondage
When you don’t know what your lover is going to be next, your arousal climbs much quicker, and arousal is necessary for many women to orgasm. Adding bondage adds helplessness to this dynamic scene. Tease and titillate everywhere but the genitals to see how quickly your lover will climax, hands free.
Read: Blindfold Sex: 10 Blindfold Ideas for BDSM and Beyond
14. Anal Play
The beautiful ass has so many nerve endings that for many it is a top-pick erogenous zone. Use butt plugs, anal beads, and other ass-centric toys that will stimulate and stoke your imagination. Enjoy in the privacy of your own home, on the bus, or at the office. Rim or penetrate with a cock or strap-in, all working towards a hands-free orgasm.
Read: Anal Play Dos and Don’ts
15. Erotic ASMR
Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) refers to a tingling sensation that can start in the scalp and move down through the body. ASMR is often described as mild euphoria—a pleasurable sense of relaxation and stimulation combined. ASMR techniques can include blowing on the skin, whispering, water play, taste sensations, music and other audio stimulation.
Read: Erotic ASMR: 12 Ideas for ASMR Sex
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