Every once in a while, it’s a good idea to get back to the basics. You know, undressing a woman for sex, kissing 101, copping a feel, or fingering.
The world of pleasure is literally at your fingertips. Your hands have ten fingers—that’s a LOT of stimulation. They have unparalleled dexterity. Think about trying to fix an engine or play a piano with a stick or a paddle instead of your hands. Am I right!?!
The Kinky Side of Getting Fingered
Finger banging is also an incredibly versatile and portable pleasure that merges exquisitely with all kinds of kinks and fetishes. What’s more exciting for a voyeur than watching two women finger fuck each other slowly? How better to torture your lover between touch and restraint when she is tied up and naked? How else to tease her over her panties when you’re whispering your filthiest desires?
Fingering is one of the key techniques for her arousal while delaying intercourse, and increased female arousal is the key to mind-bending sex. It’s one of the best ways to play at orgasm denial, getting her close to the edge and pulling back in order to build her desperation and desire.
But don’t just pull her pants down and jam into her dry pussy. Here’s how to finger a woman properly.
6 Tips for Fingering a Woman
1. Be a Tease
Fingering warms her up for penetration with your cock or other objects, and increases her arousal.
But before all that, you want to get her warmed up for the fingering itself!
Kissing, necking, talking dirty, undressing her slowly, touching her whole body, and suckling her nipples are just some of the ways to get her motor revving. Eventually reach for her pussy, but keep it outside of her skirt or jeans first, then over the panties.
Make a ceremony of finally pulling the panties to one side. You may notice they’re wet, but continue with barely touching her for a while. Move away and come back.
2. Touch Her when She Begs for It
Once she starts moaning and pushing her pussy towards you, or begging outright for you to touch it, you can start to work on her vulva. Don’t push your way inside yet. There’s a lot to explore.
3. Be Creative and Enjoy Playing with Her Pussy
Think of all the different strokes you can try. Long and feathery, tickling gestures that barely touch her. A flat palm of pressure. Circular motions. Pinching. Light taps or firmer swats. Massaging. Spreading her open. Using one fingertip, or trailing her with several, then all ten.
4. Rub Her Clitoris, but Ask Her How
I hate to have direct touch on my clit. It is very painful and makes me pull back. Still, some guys think they know best and try to pull back the hood and go to town on it.
Some women want direct pressure, some don’t. Ask her to show you how to touch her clit, then follow instructions. You can also gain important information from monitoring her reactions to every touch.
5. Don’t Finger Inside until She’s Begging Again
Tease her by entering her slowly, pulling back, using just one finger and adding more as she begs again. Remember, this kind of fingering is way beyond what you did the first time you touched a woman.
6. If the Aim Is Orgasm, Switch to a Methodical, Rhythmic Mode
If you’re warming her up for cock penetration or for kinky play, well, she’s warm! If she wants to come from fingering alone, switch gears to a more rhythmic, consistent stimulation. Use one hand the way she showed you on her clit and the other for penetration. Or let her do her clit while you finger her until she screams.
Want more fingering tips? See Holly’s article Dos and Don’ts of Fingering.
Does fingering make it into your regular routine? Share your tips in the comments!
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