Most of us have our repertoire of kinky sex positions that we engage in regularly, especially if we’ve been with the same partner a long time.
Each partner will have a favorite, and there will be some that you both enjoy equally. There might be one position that only one of you loves, but which the other person is willing to indulge.
But how often do you try something new, a kinky sex position you read about here at Kink Lovers or heard about from a friend?
It’s easy to get into sexual patterns and forget that there’s a whole wide world of kink and fetishes to explore that includes kinky sex positions that you’ve never dreamed of.
Here are some tips to consider before you get started.
5 Tips for Trying New Sex Positions
1. Do Your Research
This is the fun kind of research that will have you watching porn (although you can’t believe everything you see), browsing sex manuals, attending fetish workshops, and reading the risqué journals of BDSM enthusiasts. It’s the kind of research that gives you ideas and expands your knowledge of what’s possible with your body.
Most of us start with missionary when we’re younger, then try flipping tops and bottoms, but that’s where the exploration often stops.
What about standing? Or using props like chairs and swings? How many times have you had sex away from the bedroom? Or with more than one lover? It’s time to branch out if you haven’t already!
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2. Be Adventurous with the Right Lovers
Nothing can halt sexual exploration faster than a bad experience. Someone you meet for a hookup might be a complete mismatch in the bedroom, they may treat you badly or break your heart. Sexual confidence diminishes with the wrong lovers.
It should be fun to explore new sex positions, not intimidating, nerve wracking, or embarrassing. Sex isn’t how it’s portrayed in media, whether that’s porn or film or books, so don’t take it too seriously.
Finding a kink compatible partner who likes to try new things is possible, and healthy.
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3. Don’t Be Afraid to Modify
Let’s say that you’re dying to try a stand-up sex position with your new lover, but the height differential is making it next to impossible. Instead of giving up right away, get creative and try to modify with props. Maybe she can stand on a couple of yoga blocks, or lean against the wall with her legs wrapped around.
People with illness or disability can tell you all about modification when it comes to kinky sex positions. Solving a problem with creative solutions is fun when the outcome is getting laid.
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4. Mix and Match Positions with Your Kink
Trying new kinky sex positions can be a kink in itself, but once you’ve mastered the position, you’ll likely want to take it a little further. I love doggy style sex, but for a next-level orgasm, I’ll have my lover penetrate me anally and use a dildo for my vagina. I don’t want this every time, but once in a while, it’s an absolute thrill.
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Don’t forget, you don’t have to throw out your tried-and-true sex positions like missionary and woman-on-top, but adding a toy or prop every now and again will keep things interesting.
5. Recognize and Accept when a Position Doesn’t Work
Let’s say that you’ve tried to modify a new sex position, but you’ve pulled a muscle, or she’s getting rubbed the wrong way, literally. Abandon ship immediately, and find something that works for both of you. This is especially important if you are older and have strength and joint issues. No sexual high is worth injury.
Keep things in perspective too. Not all women’s legs can wrap around your neck or behind their head. The angle you are entering the woman who you’re hooking up with tonight may not feel the same way it did for your last girlfriend. And remember: use porn for inspiration, but not as a how-to tool.
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