Rimming Tips: How to Give a Rim Job

Rimming is a great way to spice up your oral sex routine. Follow these beginner rim job tips to get started.

What is a Rim Job?

Rimming is simply the act of licking your partner’s anus for sexual pleasure.

The rim job is just on the cusp of kinkiness. It really isn’t that kinky to get down and lick all around somebody’s ass, but at the same time, most couples just never go there. A lot of people are not fully aware of just how many nerve endings are in the butthole.

The rim job is the gateway to greater pleasure many men and woman. If you’re thinking of giving or receiving a rim job for the first time, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

How to Give a Rim Job

Men and women can both enjoy rimming, so even though I’m writing from the perspective of a male giver and a female recipient, feel free to mix it up.

Ease into Rimming

Don’t jam your tongue in there like a soggy dill pickle spear. That can feel just about as awful as an unwanted finger. Be gentle and begin by making light circles around the outside of your partner’s anus.

If she’s really into it, try using a little more pressure, but with rimming, less is often more. If you want to intensify things, try increasing the speed of your tongue movements.

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Be Present and Adjust Accordingly

Pay attention to your partner. Try not to get so wrapped up in the novelty of analingus that you neglect to follow her guidance. Allowing someone to rim you requires a willingness to be vulnerable. It’s an expression of trust and can be really hot, if the connection is there and if the two of you are equally into it.

*Note: If you’re worried about germs or STIs, a dental dam or a condom that has been cut open can be used to create a barrier. Safety is always important.

Try it in the Shower or Right After

Cleanliness is an issue obviously with rim jobs, unless the lack of cleanliness is your thing. The best time to administer a rim job is right after the two of you have had a shower.

Even in the shower would be an opportune time. You’re just casually soaping your sweetheart’s ass. Then you’re soaping in their ass crack. Next thing you know you’re squatting down in the shower and licking on their vaginal lips from behind, while they lean forward against the shower wall.

What a wonderful time to move your tongue north and start rimming that ass. Work the tip of your tongue into the little folds of the sphincter. Rub the clit in a reach around while you slide your tongue over that hole.

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How to Get a Rim Job

Prepare for Rimming

This essentially means clean your bum hole really well. Rimming isn’t the kind of thing you want to ask your partner to do at the spur of the moment. It requires preparation and a trust that there won’t be any nasty surprises.

Some folks prefer to give themselves a quick warm-water enema before engaging in any kind of anal play. It’s not a terrible idea, although knowing your body, and showering well before hand should be enough.

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Communicate

Tell your partner how you like it. Offer guidance and encouragement because rimming doesn’t come naturally to everyone. In fact, it can take a few tries to get the hang of it and to grow comfortable with the idea of licking someone down there.

The first time I did it, I was worried about bacteria, but proper cleansing will take care of that. When I saw how much my partner loved it, I couldn’t wait to try it again!

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If your hope is to feel like a dirty bird then the rim job is definitely your sweet chariot. Swing low, and you’ll see just what I’m talking about.