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Sexual Role Play Tips: Part 1

Couple Engaged in Role Play

Role plays can be tricky. If you’re trying it for the first time, you might find it awkward or corny to “pretend” you’re something/someone you’re not. Even for those who practice it, a 100% commitment to the task at hand is required in order not to break “the fourth wall”. You don’t have to be a professional actor to pull it off, but you do need to act.

My introduction to role plays came via a hookup with a woman whose biggest thrill was The Schoolgirl Scenario. It threw me off guard. Sure, I’m a downright horndog, but the Lolita game hadn’t ever occurred to me. I knew (let’s call her) Jenn well for some time from regular sex parties, but in that context she’d only ever taken part as a self-assigned fluffer (albeit everyone in the room’s favorite fluffer!)

Jenn taught me some nifty tricks to help ease the campiness of taking on a role, while at the same time intensifying the play:

Keep it dark. No light (or very low light) acts as a “mask.” By blocking your surroundings, it’s easier to pretend you’re some place you’re not.

Blindfolds are even darker. A complete blackout forces you to draw on your full imagination. The ensuing vulnerability never hurts, either.

Kill the music. Silence will make you feel as though you’re having to be sneaky about the deed, perhaps in some hiding place where you silently hope not to get caught. Better still, everything becomes about hot breath and close-to-the-ear whispers. Sex-ay!

Which cock is mine? Keep extra cock-shaped dildos handy so she has to guess: A) when she’s getting tagged by a new cock, and B) when my cock takes over.

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It was such an eye-opener to see Jenn transform from fluffer to hobag and interestingly back to fluffer at the next sex party — I love the versatility of her moods — and even more exciting to be hand-held through a new experience.

I confess it took practice, but I assure you that once you get the rhythm, you can be anyone you want. We’ve now graduated to a game that’s slightly more twisted (details coming in Part 2), but all the same tricks apply.

Stay tuned…

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