I totally get it—you either want to tear off that tight black rubber dress, OR you want her to leave the eight-inch stilettos on all night while she wields the whip on your backside.
Somewhere in between leaving it all on and getting her naked as fast as you get hard is the art of undressing a woman for sex.
Whatever kind of kinky sex you’re having, the main course will be better if the appetizers are out of this world. Foreplay isn’t just about preamble or getting to the good stuff—it makes the good stuff better.
Women do enjoy getting straight to business. We enjoy quickies and a wide variety of freaky fetishes that let us explore our wildest imaginings. We’re still wired to get aroused with anticipation and touch, so the most intense sex starts way ahead of time, when we start thinking about having it. You then help build our desire and pleasure with your attention, flirtation, and touch—lots of this happens while we still have all or some of our clothes on!
How to Undress a Kinky Partner
Here are things to keep in mind or play with to amp up the intensity of her pleasure while you get her out of her clothes.
One thing at a time.
Your natural urge is to tear it all off fast and feast on my completely nude body, but your pleasure can be heightened just like mine by prolonging the process.
Use your imagination—hold her, push up against her, and use whatever you can to touch her all over. Do this over her clothes and under them.
When a garment comes off, take your time with that part of her body. Don’t underestimate the pleasure of exploration and sensation on areas like wrists or sides or knees. It isn’t all boobs and pussy. The more excited she gets, the further out her sexy nerves extend.
Don’t you get naked too fast, either!
Don’t go from fully dressed to naked straight off the bat. I’m ALWAYS disappointed if I’m fooling around with a hookup, getting all hot and bothered and ready, and he goes to the bathroom or bedroom and comes out stark naked.
Say what? Whips and chains excite me, but nothing revs me up more than feeling your dick getting hard under your jeans, or freeing it after a long necking session, just that act of unzipping your fly. Putting my hand down the back of your pants, or feeling your nipples get taut under your button-up work shirt make me shiver
There’s nothing as exciting as when the clothes are half on, half off. It’s like when you’re feeling my pussy from outside my tights and can feel how wet it is through the fabric.
Make eye contact.
When getting her undressed, looking her right in the eyes amps up the intimacy and intensity. Move your eyes back and forth between hers and the skin you are slowly revealing—this lets her see the full effect she has on you, which will turn her on even higher.
Keep it kinky.
Undressing a woman for sex can be a major part of your favorite fetishes. Boss-employee role play? Bondage and discipline? Domination and submission? From punishment to extreme penetration, the kinky connection can start long before anyone’s undressed.
Think about how hot it would be to penetrate my ass after a long session with me in my little black dress and latex thigh highs—you leave it all on and just pull up my dress and take me like that.
You know what that thought just made me? Wet.
Keeping her gift wrapped during different kinds of orgasm torture can add a lot of excitement. The punishments can be about keeping something on or taking it off.
Kink is all about imagination and our clothes are part of that theater and ritual.
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