After a string of lovers who have been prodigious moaners, but otherwise fairly reserved in the sack, I find myself missing the girls who came to me with filthy words in their quivers. Oh how they fired those scandalous utterances off in every direction like arrows at Agincourt into the French Knights of my desire.
Dirty talk is such a funny thing. Some people absolutely love it and need it to get themselves going. Some just seize up and become incredibly uncomfortable when it starts. And others just laugh at you when you try. I’ve been with all kinds, and the dirty talkers are the best, believe me.
Now, dirty talkers come in a few different sorts.
There are those ladies who simply like to narrate what is happening, or what they would like to happen. “Fuck me with that big cock, you fucker!” “Cum on my face, baby!” “I’m yours to fuck—how you want, when you want!” “This is your pussy to fuck!” That kind of stuff. Pretty hot, but not the end of the story.
Beyond this there are the people who like to discuss fantasies while they fuck, to externalize the situation. It could be about describing other scenarios, or people, or an entirely imaginary situation.
For example, the world of cuckolding and threesomes can often emanate from fantasies shared out loud between two people about what might happen, what could happen. They might talk about it abstractly, or they might be making specific plans about specific people. No matter what, it’s a way of sharing a little danger and a few mutual secrets.
In a sense it’s a relationship trust-building exercise because the fantasies may not always be something you both want to share, so out loud fantasizing is not only hot, but it’s also like a kind of double indemnity with regard to the dirty secrets you are keeping.
Even more so than this, role-playing dirty talk takes thing to a whole other level where both participants actually begin to play different characters for the duration of the sexual encounter. This can go way beyond doctor and nurse, or milkman and bored wife.
We are talking about the verbal aspect of BDSM, of adult and diaper play, of furies—basically everything. It’s common to imagine the physical requirements of all of these games, but really, without active imaginations, and willing participation in the talking by both parties, the games just won’t be any fun.
So yeah, I’ve had some lovers who are great in bed, but not too many people who love to take vocal risks lately. And I have to admit that I miss the conversational element. But so it goes. The next dirty talker might be just around the corner.
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