More than once, a partner expressed his desire to see me getting fucked by a black man.
I’ve enjoyed lovers from every ribbon on the rainbow,but it’s not something I ever indulged in as a kink or fetish, or for someone else’s fetish.
But my girlfriend is French-American and dates African-American guys exclusively. She confesses to a fetish that porn streams call “big black cock.” These videos are very popular with men—AND women.
I know many feel squeamish about having a racially charged kink. My girlfriend feels like she is objectifying dudes for their body parts, and contributing to unrealistic stereotypes for black men, but justifies it by stating the obvious—MOST sexual fantasy is unrealistic objectification.
We are in an increasingly politicized culture where we seem compelled to drag our urges into the public spotlight and sanitize them, purging ourselves of our sins. I don’t see this as any different than the days where we were told we’d go blind if we masturbated, when young children had their genitalia washed with carbolic soap toward against impure thoughts.
Our minds have always been in the gutter, and sex is where we experience a range of scenarios and emotions. We are turned on by a remarkable diversity of possibilities.
That said, understanding what is behind some of our uncomfortable kinks can help us accept them and make sure their nastier aspects don’t make it out into everyday life.
Reasons for the Big Black Cock Fetish
It’s Power Play.
There is a lot going on in the black-guy white-woman fetish scenario. It upends racial and gender power structures and roles, and twists them into a number of possibilities.
Who’s really in charge? That changes throughout the various fantasies. And It’s hot.
It’s Two People Fucking.
It’s a variation on the obvious, the standard.
Watching a man push his cock into my pussy is the most basic representation of sex there is.
It’s so normal, it’s almost vanilla.
It’s a Cuckold Thing.
Sometimes guys imagine that the woman is so horny she must fuck more men, and that the men have bigger cocks or something he doesn’t.
The cuckold fantasy—being cheated on—is as old as the hills. Some guys overanalyze why this makes their dicks so hard. In biology, it’s simple: sperm competition really drives up testosterone in primates and humans.
Black Cock Fetish is Taboo.
When interracial dating or mixed couples were rare, or even illegal, the idea was so taboo that it was a turn on in and of itself.
This can still be a motivator in the arousal because a woman might feel she is defying her parents or social mores hooking up with a black dude. Or she—or you—might be sticking it to the politically correct brigade that says you can’t fantasize about black men or Asian women because it’s a sin now for different reasons.
It’s the Size of the Cock.
Some women enjoy sex more with a big cock, or they do so in fantasy. More often, the dude enjoys the idea of the big cock—even if his is big enough too! It can raise your testosterone just thinking about it, and that’s why the picture makes you horny.
It’s simple aesthetics.
Lots of us enjoy occasional encounters with real bodies and porn that include “big black cock.” As I mentioned, it’s not an actual fetish for me, but it’s still super hot. I’m turned on by the beauty of it, the black and white skin. I see beauty in all kinds of men and women, and enjoy this combination for its own unique kind of sexy.
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