How to Explore Your First Gay Experience

Here is a kinky confession from a Kink Lovers reader who recalls his first gay experience.

When I was fifteen, I had a gay experience. My best friend had spent the weekend at my house. We slept in the same bed. At 3am I awoke to the feel of his hand on my cock. I pulled away and said, “What are you doing?” He feigned that he was dreaming. I went back to sleep, and later felt his hand again. Being curious, I wanted to see what happened.

When I didn’t stop him, he slowly uncovered us. I pretended that I was sleeping as I rolled onto my back. I felt my underwear being taken off, then he went down and took my cock in his mouth. I woke up but didn’t stop him. As he sucked, my cock got hard. I came in his mouth, and then he got up and went to the bathroom. Afterwards we said nothing. It was my first gay experience, and not my last.

A few things stood out to me in this confession: early exploration of one’s sexuality, the issue of consent, and defining moments.

The innocent exploration between young men is very natural, yet often judged or worse in different societies and culture. It happens so much more than most people realize, but is rarely shared. Most straight men I know, some married, have revealed bi-curious dalliances in their younger years. Would they talk about them today? Maybe not. But it’s not that different from the friends I have now that are out and out gay, but who kissed girls and women because they were curious or because it was safer.

Read: Straight Men Share Their Same-Sex Hookup Stories

In this confession evolves a mutual understanding of implied consent. This often happens in these early explorations, as it is so new and baby steps are necessary. This is tender story that doesn’t always end well—sometimes one party is extremely offended and sometimes violence can occur.

When we look back on our younger years of finding our way sexually, we can often see in hindsight some of that early sexual imprinting. We see why we have some of our kinks, fetishes, and sexual predilections—these are not obvious at the time. Maybe you liked to play an innocent game of doctor with friends in the neighbor’s basement back then, but now you have a thing for medical role playing. Or maybe you had a crush on a teacher that always wore pantyhose, and now that’s your kink.

Read: Confession from a Pantyhose Fetishist

I think most people are bi-curious throughout their lives if they don’t identify as gay. Whether you act on those thoughts or desires is up to you. If you do have a hankering for some guy-on-guy exploration but don’t know where to start, here are some tips.

5 Ways to Explore Your Bi Fantasies

1. Jerk off to Gay Porn

I’m a woman and I love MMF threesome porn, and I usually come when one man enters another or one cock is in another guy’s mouth, especially if they come across as straight or new to the “gay experience.” Watching bi-curious men is a great way to feel comfortable in your thoughts, and it may be enough if you don’t feel ready to explore your desires in real life.

Read: Why Women Love Watching Gay Porn

2. Visit Gay Bars and Events

You don’t have to be gay to visit a local bar or attend events where gay people gather. You may be bi-curious, but you may indeed be bi. The more time you spend with bi or gay people, the more you can assess how you feel. Of course, it’s probably easier to explore these settings with gay friends, but if it’s just you, it may take a deep breath and a little courage.

3. Explore Anal Sex with a Woman

Think about it: Is your fantasy to be with another man, or more about anal sex? Would a woman wielding a strap-on satisfy your hunger? Pegging is popular porn, but it’s also making it’s way into mainstream bedrooms. It’s a different kind of sexual high wherein you can use your imagination to pretend she’s a man if that’s part of your curiosity… before you find a man.

4. Engage in MMF Threesomes

Are you in a relationship with an adventurous woman? A lot of men think that most women don’t want threesomes, but many of us have a preference to be with two men, just as the FFM is most popular with guys. If this is her fantasy, indulge her while exploring your own curiosities and limits.

Read: Why More Men Are Trying MMF Threesomes

5. Explore through Niche Dating Sites

There are niche dating sites for every sexual proclivity, fetish and fantasy. You can go the gay kink, femdom, threesome, or BDSM route to explore your gay fantasies. It’s fun and you can go at your own pace from the comfort of your couch… until you are ready.

Check out: Best Kinky Dating Sites

Do you have a gay experience to share? Are you bi curious?

Kinky Confessions is a bi-weekly feature at Kink Lovers. We want readers to share their tantalizing tales of kink, fetish, and fantasy. SUBMIT YOUR STORY HERE! These stories don’t have to be real, they can be fiction that you’d like turned into reality.

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