After my marriage I went on a bit of a tear and spent a lot of time in various men’s bedrooms. Most of these men were younger, in their twenties, and it was often disappointing to see the state they kept their apartments in. Some I never saw again because their environments were so gross – dirty, uncomfortable, and smelly. I think women have higher standards about this sort of thing, but c’mon… if women don’t want to see you again because of how you live, it might be time to rethink things.
As someone who is enjoying her kinky side more and more, I’m not saying you need to spend a fortune creating a bdsm dungeon with a secret entrance. Most of us hardly have the space or money for such things, but you can do wonders even in a small space that will help to create a passionate mood and leave a good impression with the ladies. Here’s the skinny on creating a pleasurable environment…
1. Clean and Tidy. This is the foundation. Dirty laundry lying on the floor is a definite turn off, but tidy isn’t enough. There should be no offensive odors, so wash the floors and other surfaces regularly. And never let the garbage pile up.
2. Bathroom. Whiskers and pubes shouldn’t be in the sink or tub. And pee stains around the bottom of the toilet or rings inside mustn’t be present. And for god’s sake, please have toilet paper on hand. Manscaping: Dos and Don’ts.
3. Good Lighting. Once the basics are dealt with, you can begin having some fun with atmosphere. If you can’t afford cool lamps or dimmer switches, pick up a variety of candles, just be careful of placement when things get wild!
4. Toy Box. Invest in a few basics that most women would be interested in trying. Handcuffs and bondage tape, massage bars, and vibrators are recommended. Check out the Kink Lovers Store for all your fetish and fantasy needs!
5. Comfortable Mattress. Sure these can be expensive, but it’s for your health and well-being too. Invest in at least a double bed (queens are preferred, especially for sleeping with someone else) with decent support and bounce. Women want to be comfortable in different sexual positions!
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