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Where to Meet Kinky Women

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Tired of vanilla sex and unadventurous lovers? Start meeting local kinky women with these tips.

This post comes with a disclaimer. There are tons of kinky women out there who you are never going to know are kinky unless you get into bed with them. Their clothes and demeanor don’t give it away and they don’t use bdsm dating sites,  so I have no idea how you’re going to  meet those women. But as for the rest of them…

Attend a Munch and Get To The Heart of The Lifestyle

A munch is an informal gathering of people who are into BDSM. Read our full article about munches here. If you can find out about meetings like this in your area it can be a great way to meet others who share you kinky mindset. But be aware that there is usually no fetish gear or kink allowed at the meeting itself. This is a place for talking and getting to know others in a safe environment. Also watch for conventions for fetish-related industries like sex toys and erotica.

Looking for Something More Casual? What About BDSM Hoookups?

In general, I don’t advise getting into anything too kinky or edgy on a first meet, and a hookup implies you’ve just met and are going to have sex that night. Often alcohol is involved as well. Since much of BDSM play involves a trust and careful discussion in advance, attempting the kinky hookup is iffy. If however, you would like to find a kinky woman for a hookup that is going to stay within safe bounds, you’ll have to find out where they hang out. Check local listings for fetish nights at clubs and bars and read more tips regarding hooking up and safety with these links:

Easy BDSM Hookups for Kinky Singles?

Tips for Safe BDSM Dating

Kinky Online Dating Sites: Meet Women on the Wild Side

This is actually where you’ll find them at their kinkiest. With the chance of anonymity and a hungry audience of thousands, online dating sites for the sexually adventurous are where you’ll find these women revealing their true kink. Stay clear of vanilla dating sites like eHarmony and head straight to the mothership of BDSM dating: BDSMDate.com. Whether you want a femdom, a submissive woman, or just someone who enjoys kinky sex in general, you’ll find it online. Getting those women to then meet with you in person? Read these articles for online success:

Best BDSM Dating Sites for 2014

5 Tips for Attracting Online Dating Messages

Tips for Success With BDSM Dating

Have any tips to add to this post? Where do you meet your kinky dates? Where are these adventurous women?

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